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Hey all...so to give some back story on this thread, I recently ended a relationship with someone I've been with for a few months now. The reasons for which I won't go into as it's far too much for my fingers to handle.

But now that she's gone...I kinda miss her...

Anyway, I was just wonder if anyone has had anyone relationship problems and how you dealt with it.

Did it escalate into separation or bitterness? Did you overcome?

I appreciate and will thank all stories posted

Edit: Also, if you are in a relationship, is it working out ok?		2012-01-07 02:33:00

Author:
comishguy67
Posts: 849

i have been through a few relationships, when they all got bitter i ended it, i have had experienced trying to fix things and make them better but some times the more you try the worse it gets.

some times... it's just over, and you make yourself look bad if you dont move on, that said i have seen things get better before though. I can tell you 90% of relationships end when they get to that point, dont stress yourself out, dont make it worse on yourself, and if it got to a really bad point then it's best to just walk away.		2012-01-07 02:42:00

Author:
Tyranny68
Posts: 390

i have been through a few relationships, [b]when they all got bitter i ended it, i have had experienced trying to fix things and make them better but some times the more you try the worse it gets.



yes, this is exactly my situation. The more i tried to find ways for us to try and get along, the more I realized I just didn't like her. She just wasn't for me at all and I feel like a fool for seeing something special in her...		2012-01-07 02:49:00

Author:
comishguy67
Posts: 849

Meh... Video-Game-No-Lifer don't get no girls. Unless Video-Game girl. Then Get. (Hasn't happened yet)2012-01-07 03:37:00

Author:
Speedynutty68
Posts: 1614

Meh... Video-Game-No-Lifer don't get no girls. Unless Video-Game girl. Then Get. (Hasn't happened yet)

I need one of those, i hate dating girls who hate that i play video games, that kills it, and then they hit the road

Lol just hard to find a girl down to earth enough to realize that video games are entertainment for a reason... they are VERY entertaining		2012-01-07 07:15:00

Author:
Tyranny68
Posts: 390

@Tyranny: I don't hate that guys play games. I respect that if they like it, then it's a hobby to them. It's bad to make someone quit what they like to do.

Well, if a guy isn't like:
Girl: Wanna go see a movie??
Guy: Can't, I have a 7 kill-streak on Call of Duty!! Maybe later....

Then I'm fine. Just not every waking minute avoid-doing-anything kind of guy then I wouldn't mind it. Would also be great because I like to play games too.

I don't like how some guys are like "wait, you're a girl and you play shooters!!??". So what, I'm a girl so I'm not allowed to play shooters??.... 		2012-01-07 08:29:00

Author:
Unknown User

Nope,never got a relationship, cuz nobody loves me. =3
...
... Sigh ...


I don't like how some guys are like "wait, you're a girl and you play shooters!!??". So what, I'm a girl so I'm not allowed to play shooters??....

But girls who play shooters are awsum.
I wish there were more "Shooter-playing" girls in the world ...		2012-01-07 11:28:00

Author:
nysudyrgh
Posts: 5482

First relationship: In highschool, I agreed to go out with someone I didn't know very well. Turned out we didn't have much in common. We broke things off peacefully, no hard feelings.

Second relationship: We'd known eachother for a few months, decided to date. We had a lot in common, and enjoyed spending time with eachother. However, I always has to call him; always had to make the effort to meet up. It bothered me, but I let it go. Then he moved TWICE without telling me. I'm not sure why I stayed at that point. He went off to basic for about 6 months and I waited for him. When he got home (and I was finally able to get ahold of him) he told me he still had feelings for his ex. Neither of us said it was over, it just was. And I am still bitter about it sometimes.

Current relationship: Going on 5 years now. Any problems we have, we talk them out right away. <This seems to be a huge problem for people. I've watched several of my friends' relationships fall apart, seemingly because they NEVER do this! We have a lot in common, but more importantly we respect eachother's differences.

Seriously guys, if you're looking for a long term relationship, communication is key!		2012-01-07 11:40:00

Author:
Timelord_X
Posts: 55

I'm not interrested in normal humans.2012-01-07 12:06:00

Author:
Ayneh
Posts: 2454

Meh... Video-Game-No-Lifer don't get no girls. Unless Video-Game girl. Then Get. (Hasn't happened yet)

You should move to virgina. Lots of gamer girls here ^^		2012-01-07 12:25:00

Author:
comishguy67
Posts: 849

I'm not interrested in normal humans.


^^ This.

now if only i could just find me a dragon girl already... 		2012-01-07 12:33:00

Author:
Lord-Dreamerz
Posts: 4261

Lots, SGR, yeah their is a point when it can get obsessive, i like video games, and perhaps when i am not in a relationship i go a bit overboard with my gaming but if i have a priority and a dedication to a person then their is no reason gaming should get in the way, if we both like them then great but still their are things to do places to go, i respect the people i date but if they are not compatible it isn't worth working at it, i learned that the hard way twice, and i have spent a lot of time thinking about ways to avoid these situation in the future, and i find i am already happier and my social interaction with others is much more positive, i haven't dated in maybe a year, but not because i am hideous or anything XD, i just wanted a whole lot of time to think and decide what works best, give a lot of though into what exactly i or we did wrong, and in the end i know it will pay off, it certainly can't go as bad as it has before ^_^

However a dragon girl would be awesome, assuming of course she played video games 		2012-01-07 13:48:00

Author:
Tyranny68
Posts: 390

My girlfriend and I have been going out for four months today, and I told her about LBP last week. She's coming over today, and the one thing she wants to do besides see me....... is play LBP. ^_^2012-01-07 14:39:00

Author:
flyinhawaiian
Posts: 357

Current count is at 0

But no, I couldn't care less right now, more important things to worry about.		2012-01-07 21:23:00

Author:
kirbyman62
Posts: 1893

every waking minute avoid-doing-anything kind of guy

Oh my god it's like you know me!		2012-01-07 22:01:00

Author:
Speedynutty68
Posts: 1614

Also, I'll apologize to comishguy for side-stepping the threads main question and topic.

I'd like to say that I'm sorry about her. And I'd say that I agree with Tyranny's opinion on this. But I think that walking away, is the best thing to do after you've tried. When you care about someone, it's not smart to give up just because things get hard, you do that if you've tried everything but the other person just doesn't really cooperate or care much.		2012-01-08 05:42:00

Author:
Unknown User

Aye...I've been in a relationship. Going strong for a full year, but then...it just ended when she told me she didn't love me anymore.

We talked often, but she never bothered talking things out when she had a problem with something I did whereas I did. I have my own blame in it though for the reasons she left me were ones that can easily bring a relationship to an end and it hurts that she never told me those things until after it ended. So, I've been doing my best to better myself.

While part of me still loves her dearly, I'm trying not to allow myself to stay connected whenever we meet because she always brings up the new stallion she's saddled up... Even so far as to ask about advice about their future sex life... That struck home with me, that I must move the hell on and NOT allow myself to be a welcome mat to her whenever she comes upon a hardship that 'he' cannot solve.		2012-01-08 06:32:00

Author:
4wheel
Posts: 511

Aye...I've been in a relationship. Going strong for a full year, but then...it just ended when she told me she didn't love me anymore.

We talked often, but she never bothered talking things out when she had a problem with something I did whereas I did. I have my own blame in it though for the reasons she left me were ones that can easily bring a relationship to an end and it hurts that she never told me those things until after it ended. So, I've been doing my best to better myself.

While part of me still loves her dearly, I'm trying not to allow myself to stay connected whenever we meet because she always brings up the new stallion she's saddled up... Even so far as to ask about advice about their future sex life... That struck home with me, that I must move the hell on and NOT allow myself to be a welcome mat to her whenever she comes upon a hardship that 'he' cannot solve.

Listen, you were with one of those people who enjoy making people suffer, i have been there, the SAME situation or worse, i will not go into details but lets just say i took a knife to the heart more than once in that type of situation, i ended it last however, though the damage was already done, for a good year after that i couldn't commit or be happy with anyone else and the relationship just after that took a lot because of it, the girl i was with loved me she did, and she was a nice person but i couldn't feel compassion for another human being the same way after what happened to me, i can honestly say i never loved this girl or even had "Feelings" for her, of course i thought i did at first.

What i am saying is this, when you are in the vulnerable position that you currently are in and you were involved in (Technically you still are whether you like to admit it or not) that person is going to use every opportunity to hurt you and keep you down, what she is attempting to do is the cruelest way possible to keep you as her "Back up"
by hurting you she knows you still have feeling for her, if she can tell you something like this and hear the pain it causes you it makes her feel more secure, why? because she is mentally weak, she cant live without another person in her life and if it all goes south with her current relationship she is coming for you, she will speak soft words and act caring till the next comes around, then again you will be the cannon fodder as she walks all over you to keep you as her back up, please don't let this happen as just hearing this story brings back pain i can't even describe, you however know what i am saying because you are there now, don't let her get to you stay strong and push back, i won't tell you exactly what you need to do but you know..

And P.S. i'm a guy so my experiences happened with... well blobviously a girl, anyone who reads this note that a guy can and has done this too, and perhaps just as much as girls do it guys do.		2012-01-08 11:38:00

Author:
Tyranny68
Posts: 390

Also, I'll apologize to comishguy for side-stepping the threads main question and topic.

I'd like to say that I'm sorry about her. And I'd say that I agree with Tyranny's opinion on this. But I think that walking away, is the best thing to do after you've tried. When you care about someone, it's not smart to give up just because things get hard, you do that if you've tried everything but the other person just doesn't really cooperate or care much.

No worries, and yes I have tried several times but things just don't mix with us. It's a shame too because I thought things were getting really serious, but her superficial personality rose to the surface over time. I thought I knew her...but all she was doing was being who she thought everyone wanted her to be.		2012-01-08 16:24:00

Author:
comishguy67
Posts: 849

I don't know why, but ive always had a thing for girls that are really mean.2012-01-08 16:41:00

Author:
Charlemagne
Posts: 513

I don't know why, but ive always had a thing for girls that are really mean.

Heh...I too like my women fiesty 		2012-01-08 19:44:00

Author:
comishguy67
Posts: 849

Listen, you were with one of those people who enjoy making people suffer, i have been there, the SAME situation or worse, i will not go into details but lets just say i took a knife to the heart more than once in that type of situation, i ended it last however, though the damage was already done, for a good year after that i couldn't commit or be happy with anyone else and the relationship just after that took a lot because of it, the girl i was with loved me she did, and she was a nice person but i couldn't feel compassion for another human being the same way after what happened to me, i can honestly say i never loved this girl or even had "Feelings" for her, of course i thought i did at first.

What i am saying is this, when you are in the vulnerable position that you currently are in and you were involved in (Technically you still are whether you like to admit it or not) that person is going to use every opportunity to hurt you and keep you down, what she is attempting to do is the cruelest way possible to keep you as her "Back up"
by hurting you she knows you still have feeling for her, if she can tell you something like this and hear the pain it causes you it makes her feel more secure, why? because she is mentally weak, she cant live without another person in her life and if it all goes south with her current relationship she is coming for you, she will speak soft words and act caring till the next comes around, then again you will be the cannon fodder as she walks all over you to keep you as her back up, please don't let this happen as just hearing this story brings back pain i can't even describe, you however know what i am saying because you are there now, don't let her get to you stay strong and push back, i won't tell you exactly what you need to do but you know..

And P.S. i'm a guy so my experiences happened with... well blobviously a girl, anyone who reads this note that a guy can and has done this too, and perhaps just as much as girls do it guys do.

Thank you. Thank you very much. I have been feeling just as you say. It's...tough, but I've been getting out more, staying away from where we usually encounter each other. I'm going to start working soon and I'll be able to keep my mind occupied through that. Yes, I realized too late her immaturity and insecurities. That she just moves from one to the next so long as they indulge her insecurities and allow her to continue living the life she has without worry.

It feels wrong to speak of her like this, but she's like a poison. All you can do is take the antidote and let things run it's course. It's surprisingly liberating hearing I'm not the only one to go through such a thing...it brings me to tears as I'm writing this. Thank you so much! I'm not fully sure of what direction to take, but I needed to hear what you said. Now I just...have to shape up and rise above her.		2012-01-09 02:01:00

Author:
4wheel
Posts: 511

Thank you. Thank you very much. I have been feeling just as you say. It's...tough, but I've been getting out more, staying away from where we usually encounter each other. I'm going to start working soon and I'll be able to keep my mind occupied through that. Yes, I realized too late her immaturity and insecurities. That she just moves from one to the next so long as they indulge her insecurities and allow her to continue living the life she has without worry.

It feels wrong to speak of her like this, but she's like a poison. All you can do is take the antidote and let things run it's course. It's surprisingly liberating hearing I'm not the only one to go through such a thing...it brings me to tears as I'm writing this. Thank you so much! I'm not fully sure of what direction to take, but I needed to hear what you said. Now I just...have to shape up and rise above her.

No problem 4 wheel, i can only hope you learn sooner than i did, luckily it seems you can, i was with this girl for a year and a half, and the really sad thing is, we had a daughter together, and i wanted to make it work for her sake but when i look at my parents and see they are unhappy i am unhappy, i thank her for the amazing gift she has given me but honestly that is the only positive thing i see from her, though i wouldn't recommend having a kid with that girl lol.

one morw rod of advice i can give you is to NEVER give her your place of work or she will "Conveniently" show up some time, i wish you the best of luck and hope you make your life better and much more happy become strong and get away from that abusive girl, you dont need or deserve it pal and you shouldn't be miserable for it.		2012-01-09 06:31:00

Author:
Tyranny68
Posts: 390

Relationships are for people with lives. I consider going on a date to be work. I feel the same way for anything I can't do while decomposing in my chair. Kind of depressing, but that's how it works for me. But then again, who need feelings anyway?

P.S. That'll be $5. demotivational speeches aren't free y'know.		2012-01-10 21:05:00

Author:
Unknown User

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-16500768

And this is before robot girlfriends and virtual reality.		2012-01-11 11:20:00

Author:
Ayneh
Posts: 2454

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-16500768

And this is before robot girlfriends and virtual reality.

"I would have to give up the things I do at the weekend for her"

Well said, have a cookie 		2012-01-11 17:29:00

Author:
kirbyman62
Posts: 1893

I hope something I say can help, it's "Old school" but it worked for me.(been married longer then most of the members here have been alive, dang I feel old)
I had a lot of ups and downs with relationships. Was engaged 4 times and refused my hubby 3 times before I accepted.
What I found is for a solid relationship you must have mutual respect, communication and mutual goals in regards to each other.
It's hard work and BOTH people have to be willing to work at it.
Sorry if I sound like a Mom, but I am. 		2012-01-11 18:28:00

Author:
Lady_Luck__777
Posts: 3458

I've been with my wife and mother of my child for 10 years.

She told me this week that she wants to end the relationship and if I don't find somewhere else to live by next month then she'll move out and take my daughter somewhere far away where I won't get to see her. Now I have to somehow find the money to rent a place. Ironically the only local place where the rent would be affordable to me right now is a small house which I once owned when I first met her and took her in when she was homeless...and to add insult to injury, I will still have to pay the mortgage on the house she's kicking me out of.

And what did I do to deserve this? Did I beat her? Did I have an affair? Did I lose my job and turn alcoholic?

Nope.

She thinks I spend too much time on my PS3 		2012-01-11 20:57:00

Author:
Ungreth
Posts: 2130

Yeah, what Ungreth, 4wheel and Tyranny68 have written have shown the pitfalls in relationships. You can't trust anyone even after 10 years of being together, and marriage particularly is a total deathtrap.

I hope you come out of this ok, Ungreth.		2012-01-11 21:57:00

Author:
Ayneh
Posts: 2454

I've been with my wife and mother of my child for 10 years.

She told me this week that she wants to end the relationship and if I don't find somewhere else to live by next month then she'll move out and take my daughter somewhere far away where I won't get to see her. Now I have to somehow find the money to rent a place. Ironically the only local place where the rent would be affordable to me right now is a small house which I once owned when I first met her and took her in when she was homeless...and to add insult to injury, I will still have to pay the mortgage on the house she's kicking me out of.

And what did I do to deserve this? Did I beat her? Did I have an affair? Did I lose my job and turn alcoholic?

Nope.

She thinks I spend too much time on my PS3

Very sad to here Ungreth, only thing you can do is work your butt of and make your way to the top again, do what you got to do to get to a better place, and either try to fix things or just go your separate ways... Just curious though... How much do you spend on your ps3? 		2012-01-11 21:57:00

Author:
Tyranny68
Posts: 390

http://i424.photobucket.com/albums/pp326/Southwind/forever-alone.jpg

Did you have this face when you broke up with her?

Just Kidding. Just trying to brighten up your day.

Anyway If you feel for this chick then you all ask her out agian and if not there's plenty of fish in the sea.

Don't let it get you down. 		2012-01-11 22:41:00

Author:
Unknown User

Very sad to here Ungreth, only thing you can do is work your butt of and make your way to the top again, do what you got to do to get to a better place, and either try to fix things or just go your separate ways... Just curious though... How much do you spend on your ps3?

Much, much less than I used to. Around 15-20 hours a week. The real damage was done last year when I spent around 6-8 hours a day on LBP, and although I eventually realised that I had developed an unhealthy obsession and pretty much quit, I guess she never really forgave me for investing that time in a game when I should have been investing it in her.		2012-01-12 00:38:00

Author:
Ungreth
Posts: 2130

She can't really mean to take your kid away like that. You said the courts of the UK favored the women in a divorce but you should get at least some share of the time with your daughter. And if she does take your daughter away, I think she'd resent her for that sooner or later.

Ah, the children. They're the ones who always suffer 		2012-01-12 01:15:00

Author:
SnipySev
Posts: 2452

Hey all...so to give some back story on this thread, I recently ended a relationship with someone I've been with for a few months now. The reasons for which I won't go into as it's far too much for my fingers to handle.

But now that she's gone...I kinda miss her...

Anyway, I was just wonder if anyone has had anyone relationship problems and how you dealt with it.

Did it escalate into separation or bitterness? Did you overcome?

I appreciate and will thank all stories posted

Edit: Also, if you are in a relationship, is it working out ok?

Don't be bitter. Be thankful for what it was when it was good.

Unless they cheated. Then be bitter. Be reaaaallyy bitter. In all honesty though, Barney off How I Met Your Mother nails it every time with 'When I get sad, I stop being sad and be awesome". Might not work for you, but every time I feel unhappy I think of it and actually start being awesome. Try it!		2012-01-20 11:46:00

Author:
DrunkMiffy
Posts: 2758

DRUNKMIFFY?!?

duuude WHERE HAVE YOU BEEN		2012-01-20 16:16:00

Author:
ryryryan
Posts: 3767

I've personally been hurt in every relationship ive ever been in.. sad i know.. but the most important thing ive learned is to never stay with someone only because you dont wanna be lonely.. its hard for me to do because i hate being alone!2012-01-26 03:32:00

Author:
Unknown User

I don't get in relationships because it would cause me to go outside.2012-01-26 03:35:00

Author:
TheMonkeyBlade
Posts: 687

I don't get in relationships because it would cause me to go outside.

With Skype? I think not 		2012-01-26 17:28:00

Author:
kirbyman62
Posts: 1893

I've personally been hurt in every relationship ive ever been in.. sad i know.. but the most important thing ive learned is to never stay with someone only because you dont wanna be lonely.. its hard for me to do because i hate being alone!

I know that feeling all too well, Mizz. It really sucks. All I can say is...to try and find something else to hold over your time. I'm going to be attending an Anime Convention on the 18th of Feb. I'm hoping I'll meet some nice people and make a few more friends so I don't feel as lonely as I do now. Hopefully I'll meet someone special through it as well.

So look at what your hobbies are and see if there are any events, conventions, swap meets, anything at all pertaining to them and find some way to get out and experience something more than the ordinary!		2012-01-26 18:55:00

Author:
4wheel
Posts: 511

O_O' How, did I get here......why am I on this thread.......2012-01-26 19:44:00

Author:
Cobaltor
Posts: 222

So I've been going out with my missus 5 years today. And I'm only 22 (23 come april).

huh		2012-01-26 23:40:00

Author:
ryryryan
Posts: 3767

I've been with my wife and mother of my child for 10 years.

She told me this week that she wants to end the relationship and if I don't find somewhere else to live by next month then she'll move out and take my daughter somewhere far away where I won't get to see her. Now I have to somehow find the money to rent a place. Ironically the only local place where the rent would be affordable to me right now is a small house which I once owned when I first met her and took her in when she was homeless...and to add insult to injury, I will still have to pay the mortgage on the house she's kicking me out of.


Now, maybe I'm completely wrong, as I have about as much experience with 'The Ladies' as a baked potato, but.....



Kick her out. Don't become like Alan from Two and a Half Men. It's your house, and 50% your kid.

She's already breaking your heart, don't let her take your stuff.



But maybe you shouldn't. I dunno. I'm no Dr. Phil.		2012-01-27 05:35:00

Author:
tomodon246
Posts: 624

If you really love her, you'l be happier with her happy.2012-01-29 03:42:00

Author:
lark98-2
Posts: 116

i was engaged long time ago but me and her still talk. im single atm but im not really in the mood to date till im finished with my education 2012-01-29 06:40:00

Author:
WESFUN
Posts: 1336

"Liking" someone doesn't count, and every girl I've actually gotten a chance with have some strict parents.
SO YEAH
back to my date with my beautiful PS3. <3		2012-01-30 03:39:00

Author:
grayspence
Posts: 1990


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