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Yo, I need some help with girls. It's not that I can't talk to them etc...it's more the opposite :S I don't know WHY but as of late I've had a few girls who seem to like me. I can deal with the few others that aren't as serious but here is the main problem!

So one of the social circles I'm in is this group of guys/girls from various schools, right? I kind of joined in as a friend of one of them back in around october. Unfortunately, one of the girls in the group immediately became smitten with me. She expressed her smitten-ness by switching from insults to jumping on my lap when I'm sitting down and honestly scared the hell out of me (and in the process put me off her). I was also asked by a few others in the group whether I liked her because she wanted to know because she likes me.

I sought advice from friends outside and they told me to sort of cold shoulder her, which I really hate doing to anyone but I gave it my best shot. Over christmas and january I only saw her about three times and things seemed OK until a friend's birthday party where I found out that she was upstairs with a couple others describing how she loved me and was hoping I would come upstairs and profess my love to her (I was almost dragged up the stairs... :S )

So that's the one situation with a girl who IS nice but has very much put me off with her attitude but won't let off. She also has taken the liberty of telling me how in her past when she's had crushes on guys and come out with it to them they have rejected her she has alienated all of their friends (which would mean the rest of the group) and gone into depression spirals. Oh, and her gran has cancer, to complicate matters :S

THEN there's this other girl ALSO in the same group. Her, I actually like, and she likes me back. I've been treading carefully though and have refrained from actually asking her out because the first girl will get mad and depressed etc. Some important things to note - I was going to sleep over at her house next friday (in the spare bedroom, don't worry ) and she texted to say "Don't say anything to [first girl] because she'll never talk to me again and will cry"... and then when the group minus the second girl were playing buzz (cool kids ) and I stole points off of the first girl (rebel) she said, "OH, well you wouldn't do that to [second girl], would you?"

So things are kinda complicated. The 2nd girl and I know we want to go out with each other. We also both know we can't because it'd crush the first girl. The first girl still has a major crush on me, and seems to have an inkling about the 2nd girl and me.

WHAT DO I DO?!

Girl #1 has major crush on me. Girl #2 likes me. I like Girl #2. If I ask Girl #2 out, Girl #1 will hate me and Girl #2 and possibly the rest of the group for life and will get severely depressed. What do I do?

I normally like pickles, but this ones tough 		2010-02-27 22:37:00

Author:
dawesbr
Posts: 3280

Give Girl #1 a "gift"

http://armyaviation.files.wordpress.com/2007/01/rpg.jpg		2010-02-27 22:41:00

Author:
Doopz
Posts: 5592

Become Mormon! Naw, I say do whatever you are happy with. No sense catering to others if it's not going to make you happy. Do you not like girl #1?

P.S. I read the short version after starting on the big one...

Edit: Hahaha, Doopz479. I laughed more before the picture popped up, to be honest, because it's kinda true. In a weird way. Just buy girl #1 a gift! 		2010-02-27 22:44:00

Author:
comphermc
Posts: 5338

The biggest piece of advice I've been given by more than one girl is don't lead her on. So buying her a gift is a baaaad idea. She'd probably think we were going out then, would get more obsessive... and if I gave her a bazooka, she'd shoot me with it.

I should add to the TL;DR that girl #1 is obsessive and known to go into depression spirals and hate everyone if a crush turns her down.

And if I lead her on, it'd probably be worse.		2010-02-27 23:07:00

Author:
dawesbr
Posts: 3280

What? No i didn't mean give her the rpg... i meant shoot her with it.2010-02-27 23:09:00

Author:
Doopz
Posts: 5592

bleh see this is why i just act like an emotional wall whenever girls come on to me >_< at this age (almost 15) there's just no point, your gunna have a fun little run then your gonna end up with a handful of depressed people, my advice, it's better to have two good erm what to call em...female friends than one temporary girlfriend and then lose two friends and make them hate each other. See?2010-02-27 23:25:00

Author:
Littlebigdude805
Posts: 1924

Um, so, you're saying avoid relationships altogether because they make everything worse for everyone? Gee...thanks?

Oh, and Doopz, SORRY, didn't realise. I'll...make a note? 		2010-02-27 23:42:00

Author:
dawesbr
Posts: 3280

Polygamy polygamy polygamy!!!

Joking (of course ). I'd personally just tell the two how you feel about them, you'd be surprised how much they'd (paticulary 1st girl) would understand about the situation. I'm sure they would, but then again I might be wrong.. 		2010-02-27 23:55:00

Author:
AgentBanana
Posts: 511

Agent Banana, I'm afraid that's most likely incredibly wrong. She's told me stories of how she had someone she had a massive crush on, wrote love letters about him and everything, then he told her how he felt and dated her friend and she never spoke to the friend again and hates the guy for life. So...yeah that'll happen to me.2010-02-28 01:47:00

Author:
dawesbr
Posts: 3280

Well I guess that you have no choice then :
date her, then marry her and spend the rest of your life with her, like that she will not be upset or depressed!

Seriously, just do what YOU want, it's your life after all!
As Agent Banana said, if needed, have an honest and sincere talk with her,
and if she is a smart girl and a real friend, she should understand...

2010-02-28 02:26:00

Author:
dajdaj03
Posts: 1486

I'm not really into any relationships yet (still quite young, you would be surprised,) but from all the advise and stuff I've heard, you should go with the one you like, get to know her better, eventually ask her to the movies ("Hey! Want to go to the movies later?") and have a couple other friends go with, eventually have it just you and her, and don't outright say it's a date. Just go with the flow, and NO GIFTS until you kissed.
Take that with a grain of sugar, I don't know much in this area.		2010-02-28 02:35:00

Author:
chezhead
Posts: 1063

Um, so, you're saying avoid relationships altogether because they make everything worse for everyone? Gee...thanks?

Oh, and Doopz, SORRY, didn't realise. I'll...make a note?

not always but in your case yea, you won't be so sarcastic when it happens.		2010-02-28 03:08:00

Author:
Littlebigdude805
Posts: 1924

Fortunately for you, I've VERY RECENTLY been in a nearly identical situation. Unfortunately for me, girl #2 does not like me back () but i digress.

I'm one of those people that just very sensitive to how others feel, and overly polite. I hold open doors, I apologize over small matters... etc. So I have girl #1. Like your #1, she is my friend, and is obsessed with me, yet I don't like her back. Over three weeks, I racked my brain, trying to figure out what to do. I didn't want to just reject her; I was afraid of hurting her feelings. My friends told me to just cold-shoulder her, but I found it practically impossible with me being overly polite. She later started hugging me in between periods and I knew then and there I would have to perform the necessary "Break The Heart/Crush The Dream" evil. it didn't help I was also in love with someone who didn't like me back; I sympathized! But in the end, I made the sacrifice; I had to tell her off. She took it quite well, and although even your own #1 will probably not, it is a necessary evil indeed, because you know what? On the other side you have a fantastic relationship waiting for you, with only the false hopes of a delusional person in the way. You're going to have to mow things down in life; you better start now.		2010-02-28 03:55:00

Author:
Astrosimi
Posts: 2046

Prefect Solution: Sex Change.2010-02-28 04:00:00

Author:
Incinerator22
Posts: 3251

fake your death, let #2 in on the secret, run away and live in forest 2010-02-28 04:34:00

Author:
Littlebigdude805
Posts: 1924

I can clearly understand what kind of people you're dealing with. There's about 4-5 people I know who act just like Girl #1. If anything, all she might do is give you false threats and agressive gestures, but that's about it. No need to worry about something like, say, a bazooka. Plus, by the sound of it, she sorta already knows your relationship with Girl #2.

Now, Girl #2... if she cares enough not to hurt Girl #1's feelings, then that's something special you truelly have. If anything, you should admit your feelings to her (if she doesn't know already) and try explaining to her your situation. She could help out and give you support once you've made your decision.

One thing, and only one, very important thing, you should do is be honest. I mean, if Girl #1 truelly loves you and really does honestly, truefully say those things about her dreams of you expressing your love towards her, then she'll love you enough to let you be happy. At first it might hurt, but it's just natural. She'll be fine after a few weeks. But, if she can't stand the sight of you with Girl #2, and curses your name and hates you to her wit's end, then you have no business with her. That's when you just have to flat-out say "No" and move on. Because trying to balance releationships with people like that aren't worth it if all you get from it is mangled ties.

Just do what your heart tells you, and you'll end up fine.		2010-02-28 05:21:00

Author:
Outlaw-Jack
Posts: 5757

Woah, Astrosimi, missing twin much?

I had a similar version of Girl #1 on me before, and the cold-shoulder tactic seemed to work on her (though she worryingly told me on facebook that she was sad we hadn't talked together in ages.) It hasn't worked on Girl #1...

Outlaw, y'see, the problem is that the group have known each other since primary school so if I want to stay friends with any of the others I can't have girl #1 hating me. Y'know that episode of friends where they're discussing something similar, and there's that...Zip dude? Yeah that'd happen to me. And I don't want that.

LittleBigDude...I'll take my chances. Uh, thanks though.

chezzy, my man, long time, eh? Y'see, we've done town-y stuff together before but we're both having to hold back on a relationship and we both know it. When one of the other girls in the group found out we'd gone into town together without any of them she was like =O so yeah holding back mega-time :S

And then there's the girl that I haven't seen in two years and apparently still has a crush on me >.<

Sex change it is?		2010-02-28 09:38:00

Author:
dawesbr
Posts: 3280

Date both. Then run away with a third girl you meet in two month time. Win! o/

You have to be crafty though.		2010-02-28 10:11:00

Author:
Syroc
Posts: 3193

Date both. Then run away with a third girl you meet in two month time. Win! o/

You have to be crafty though.

Beaten to it . Have fun while you're young, it runs out the older you get.		2010-02-28 15:18:00

Author:
GruntosUK
Posts: 1754

Theres only one thing to do in a situation like this


http://www.youtube.com/watch#playnext=1&playnext_from=TL&videos=YMqwxFfEjBc&v=OrsDnWW-xcY


TBH I'm not going to lie, I'm jealous of you, but that won't stop me giving you sound advice.

If you Love Girl 2 then you should go out with her, Girl 1 will just have to realise that sometimes you just don't get what you want (I've had that a lot) It may seem harsh but its a lesson she might have to learn, :kz:		2010-02-28 15:25:00

Author:
Kern
Posts: 5078

lol dawesbr your such an *** XD alright well everyone agrees, don't let Girl#1 ruin it for you.2010-02-28 18:36:00

Author:
Littlebigdude805
Posts: 1924

Outlaw, y'see, the problem is that the group have known each other since primary school so if I want to stay friends with any of the others I can't have girl #1 hating me. Y'know that episode of friends where they're discussing something similar, and there's that...Zip dude? Yeah that'd happen to me. And I don't want that.


That's why there's something called forgiveness. They can't hate you forever because, well, that's just not cool, y'know? I can assure you that this will blow over soon enough. And, I'm sorry, but tbh, if they can't forgive you for one choice you've made in your lifetime (to not go with someone you're not even interested in), then you can't let them drag you down and make your life miserable. You'll just have to move on.		2010-02-28 20:44:00

Author:
Outlaw-Jack
Posts: 5757

Yeah outlaw-jack is right, if they can't forgive you do you really want to be friends with someone like that anyway?2010-02-28 20:46:00

Author:
Doopz
Posts: 5592

You know what? Instead of worrying about girls, buy world of warcraft. You'll never look back. Ever.2010-02-28 20:59:00

Author:
AgentBanana
Posts: 511

You know what? Instead of worrying about girls, buy world of warcraft. You'll never look back. Ever.
You would look back at your life and think of the fleeting love, the wasted life, and your dead dad, whose funeral you missed due to a raid.
Kids, get off the computer and hug your dad.

WARNING! Disturbing image...
http://www.barelyhangingon.com/wp-content/uploads/thumb-fat_guy_in_girl_underwear5.jpg		2010-02-28 21:07:00

Author:
chezhead
Posts: 1063

You would look back at your life and think of the fleeting love, the wasted life, and your dead dad, whose funeral you missed due to a raid.
Kids, get off the computer and hug your dad.

WARNING! Disturbing image...
http://www.barelyhangingon.com/wp-content/uploads/thumb-fat_guy_in_girl_underwear5.jpg

Lol was there meant to be no picture in there or is it just not working?		2010-02-28 21:11:00

Author:
Doopz
Posts: 5592

I was being sarcastic.. Lol.. 2010-02-28 21:14:00

Author:
AgentBanana
Posts: 511

i always thought it was kind wrong to ask for girl advice on a forum cos you'd get some hilarious, i mean stupid replies (i meant stupid of course ).

2 things you could do:

1. Be blunt with girl no.1 and tell her the truth.

2. Kill girl no. 1 and go on the run for the rest of your life and live in a hole underground with moles and worms and live off dog food. if girl no.2 likes you, she'll find you and be with you no matter what, even if your breath smells like pig intestines.

personally, i'd go for option number 2.		2010-02-28 21:24:00

Author:
trip090
Posts: 1562

I'm having to be really cautious now about mentioning where I'm staying next Friday. I was talking to someone else about it and mentioned it to Girl #2 and she went "WOAH, you didn't tell her you're staying at mine right? [Girl #1] would hear about it!!"

The problem isn't that the others won't forgive me. The only one who'll have issues will be Girl #1, whom the others have known for 12 years, whereas I've known most of them for 1/2 a year...so she'll most likely convince them onto her side. I don't know what'd happen really but it probably wouldn't be pretty :S

Oh and funny story, someone else who I don't really speak to much but knows me and knows the rest of the group facebooked me to say "So, how's the situation with [Girl #1]'s obsession with you?

>_<		2010-02-28 21:25:00

Author:
dawesbr
Posts: 3280

Well, I'm no expert in "Love N-Gons", but I say you follow your heart. Seriously, if Girl #1 hates her friends for what you do, then that's not really a friend at all.2010-03-01 01:25:00

Author:
CyberSora
Posts: 5551

I'm having to be really cautious now about mentioning where I'm staying next Friday. I was talking to someone else about it and mentioned it to Girl #2 and she went "WOAH, you didn't tell her you're staying at mine right? [Girl #1] would hear about it!!"

The problem isn't that the others won't forgive me. The only one who'll have issues will be Girl #1, whom the others have known for 12 years, whereas I've known most of them for 1/2 a year...so she'll most likely convince them onto her side. I don't know what'd happen really but it probably wouldn't be pretty :S

Oh and funny story, someone else who I don't really speak to much but knows me and knows the rest of the group facebooked me to say "So, how's the situation with [Girl #1]'s obsession with you?

>_<

Dude, you've got to stop over-worrying about the situation and calm down a little. Now, if Girl #1 really has that strong of an influence over the rest, then why even bother trying to symphathize when they won't listen? The more I hear about this situation, the more I'm leaning towards just straight telling her off. Because by the sound of it, you're screwed if you do take action and you're screwed if you don't. If anything, I'd go with the option that yields results that benefit you more than the others.

In the end, you're gonna have to make that choice. And by the looks of it, you're probably gonna have to make that choice soon...		2010-03-01 02:03:00

Author:
Outlaw-Jack
Posts: 5757

Update for you all:

So I was texting Girl #2 after school today and she said that Girl #1 knows I know she fancies me (though that was fairly obvious to everyone). Since then we've been discussing and I'm at the moment planning on telling Girl #1 next Friday I don't like her next Friday at this Friday club thing we go to (by we it's like 90 people). Some things that Girl #2 has said:

"I think you should tell her how you feel and that it's unfair because what happens if you like someone else but can't do anything about it because she'd make you feel bad."

"Just to warn you, she will get really unhappy, but I think it's best to tell her."

"She will go and cry afterwards, you know. And don't go up to her and say can I talk to you because that's how she imagined you to tell her you like her" <- I can't very well humiliate her in front of everyone though... Sheesh...

And also I'm going to Girl #2's house AFTER the friday club, so effectively my evening will be "Preparing to break someone's heart -> Breaking it -> Rubbing it in dirt." Although I think we are going to sneak me out into Girl #2's car without Girl #1 seeing...ugh...		2010-03-01 18:34:00

Author:
dawesbr
Posts: 3280

GO FOR IT! You sneak into that girls car... (tee hee)

Tee hee i just realised Sneak is an anagram of snake LAWL		2010-03-02 19:14:00

Author:
Kern
Posts: 5078

this is like some sort of new sitcom.

LBPC and the City


something along those lines. 		2010-03-02 19:23:00

Author:
trip090
Posts: 1562

You're going to turn down an obsessive sob-prone girl in a huge group of her friends at a club and then immediately sneak the hell out of there and into the rival girl's car for a sleepover at her house??

"What did he do anyway?"
"What do you MEAN what did he DO?"
"I mean... what did he do? You know, what was his thing?"
"Breakin hearts and pimpin out. That's what he do."		2010-03-02 19:32:00

Author:
Teebonesy
Posts: 1937

OK this is just too much I've basically told Girl #2 that I like her and she seems to be telling me she has a secret boyfriend she's been keeping secret because she was afraid if I knew about him I wouldn't make a move or wouldn't even be interested in her. I'm so confused. This is like a badly written soap

Teebonesy: It's not as bad as that! I rarely see her anyway EXCEPT Fridays there, and the occasional group town trip. Incidentally, that's happening the day after, so I'm going to do it then instead, less people around and more of her close friends near. God, I'm such a horrible person D:

Trip...read above!		2010-03-02 19:37:00

Author:
dawesbr
Posts: 3280

yeah! a soap! i'm writing this. LBPC meets Home and Away or something.2010-03-02 19:39:00

Author:
trip090
Posts: 1562

she's basically told me she has a secret boyfriend that she's been keeping secret because she was afraid if I knew about him I wouldn't make a move or wouldn't even be interested in her.


WTF???? Shes been playing you along all this time? i hope you don't mind but shes a bit of a.. *ahem* Darn right you wouldn't make a move on her if you knew she was going out with someone... thats just common sense... I'm sorry Dawes

Come on lets take you down to wolverhampton that'll cheer you up 		2010-03-02 19:40:00

Author:
Kern
Posts: 5078

Nono, Kernel, you're getting the wrong idea. From the sounds of it, she was going out with him THEN began to like me but didn't want anyone knowing she was going out with another guy so that I would still be interested and possibly ask her out, giving her a reason to dump the guy that she doesn't even have a strong relationship with. Basically, she didn't tell me so I WOULD ask her out. If I'm interpreting what she's saying correctly. So...confused...2010-03-02 19:46:00

Author:
dawesbr
Posts: 3280

Nono, Kernel, you're getting the wrong idea. From the sounds of it, she was going out with him THEN began to like me but didn't want anyone knowing she was going out with another guy so that I would still be interested and possibly ask her out, giving her a reason to dump the guy that she doesn't even have a strong relationship with. Basically, she didn't tell me so I WOULD ask her out. If I'm interpreting what she's saying correctly. So...confused...

But she hasn't dumped him yet... how odd... Girls never cease to amaze me, but when i get to oldages' age i'll be a pro!

still up for wolverhampton? 		2010-03-02 19:48:00

Author:
Kern
Posts: 5078

Livin' it up down by the Civic, woop woop

And ok, I just sent a text where I'm very worried about the response. Will she really have a secret boyfriend? If so, who will it be?! Does she really like me back in the end? Find out next on Dawes and Away! Or, wait, what was the name of this again?		2010-03-02 19:50:00

Author:
dawesbr
Posts: 3280

Dawes and wolverhampton DAWES AND WOLVERHAMPTON2010-03-02 19:55:00

Author:
Kern
Posts: 5078

HAHAHA I'm part cracking up part mentally breaking down here. She said that her secret boyfriend was the guy who everyone thought she'd broken up with ages ago. I said I'd back off if she was going out with anyone, and she said she doesn't want me to back off, she only hasn't dumped him because she wasn't sure if I liked her or not. So, in other words, she only has a boyfriend because she didn't want to break up with him for me and then for me to reject her, and he's only secret so that I wouldn't not like her.

This really is TV-worthy broadcasting, folks.		2010-03-02 19:57:00

Author:
dawesbr
Posts: 3280

Mommy is Dawes going to be ok?

I don't know son... I just don't know

Your right this is gold,		2010-03-02 20:00:00

Author:
Kern
Posts: 5078

Will dawesbr ever get with girl no.2?
Who is the 'secret boyfriend?'
Will girl 1 react to the confession? Or will dawesbr back out?

Tune in next time for more CSI Miami.

Edit: Oh no! Someone already did it! Bummer! 		2010-03-02 20:02:00

Author:
AgentBanana
Posts: 511

Previously on...CSI Miami? Wait? What, this is the wrong voiceov-

So anyway, turns out they DID break up, but got back together after two weeks but now he's going "over the top" and "driving her INSANE!". Apparently all he ever talks about is whether she likes the relationship, does she think he's a good boyfriend...where they're going to live when they're older (?!) and she can't wait to break up with him. So, in effect, not only do I still have to break Girl #1's heart, I now have to kill Guy #1 by stealing his girlfriend who so eagerly wants to get away from him, and who he was making hypothetical living arrangements with.

I could do with some popcorn.		2010-03-02 20:07:00

Author:
dawesbr
Posts: 3280

here... take this bag... its full of... "popcorn" you could hide *ahem*... Put a load of "popcorn" in there, in fact there would be enough space for "two people" worth of "popcorn" 2010-03-02 20:11:00

Author:
Kern
Posts: 5078

If this is a tv series, what's the theme tune? Mission impossible theme tune? Benny hill theme?2010-03-02 20:19:00

Author:
AgentBanana
Posts: 511

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m8195GN9YVg

has to be this, He's defying gravity by going to girl 2		2010-03-02 20:25:00

Author:
Kern
Posts: 5078

Theme tune time!

(to the tune of the great escape)

Dawes-y, is very noisy. He is so very very noisy. I don't know, what that's for, but it fits with the tempo beat. Doodoodoo DOO DOO, doo DOOooo doo doo doo. *instrumental solo*

So she said she'll dump the boyfriend who she doesn't like and we will then date in secret until the day before the easter holidays when the secret will be revealed to Girl #1, so that quote endquote "she's got 2 weeks to get over the idea of killing me" <- where me is Girl #2.

Great yahweh this is complicated.		2010-03-02 20:26:00

Author:
dawesbr
Posts: 3280

I've just tuned in to this exciting drama... but I'm very confused. Is it resolved?
(I have deleted the rest of this post in case it was... offensive?)		2010-03-03 02:12:00

Author:
standby250
Posts: 1113

Holy cow! I came into this thread to make a cheesy soap opera joke, but someone already did that, so I said to myself, "Well, why not make a popcorn joke. Surely no has made the connection between this thread being as interesting as a movie and popcorn!"

But no, that's been done too. Stop stealing my material!

Seriously though, this is entertaining stuff.		2010-03-03 03:03:00

Author:
thekevinexpress
Posts: 256

eh see what did i tell you, nag nag nag, anyway you can't like ween Girl 1 off of you? Your plan sounds so harsh but if it's the only choice good luck with the execution, of the plan lol, i couldn't do that 2010-03-03 03:37:00

Author:
Littlebigdude805
Posts: 1924

Haha, maybe Girl 1 and Guy 1 could go out together after the whole thing blows over... maybe their combined hatred for you guys will form a relationship between them!
....
Oh, don't give that look! The way things are going right now, it's actually quite possible that's how the whole story will end 		2010-03-03 03:58:00

Author:
Astrosimi
Posts: 2046

that's actually not a bad idea, there both some what obsessive, delusional, and can't take a hint.2010-03-03 04:05:00

Author:
Littlebigdude805
Posts: 1924

Id choose both =P2010-03-03 06:10:00

Author:
Charlemagne
Posts: 513

Littlebigdude, I'd been weening her off me for two months, y'know, cold shouldering her, positioning myself away from her at people's houses, generally trying to push her slowly away. Then I was halfway up being dragged up the stairs by he friend so she could sit me down and profess her love in the hope that I would do the same when someone managed to stop me in time.

Generally, Girl #1 has a reputation for liking guys she won't get and becoming obsessed with 'em, or so I'm told. One of her closest friends said they'd force me to do it if I chickened out (as in tell her I don't like her that way) because, while it may hurt her in the short term, it'd be better for her overall. So I'm going to go ahead with it...I think.

Girl #2 has broken up with her secret boyfriend - She confided in one person who then went and told him straight away. Funny stuff.		2010-03-03 20:35:00

Author:
dawesbr
Posts: 3280

Text-based soap opera! So very 2010.

Keep us updated. ^.^		2010-03-03 20:42:00

Author:
Syroc
Posts: 3193

ALL ACCORDING TO PLAN
decapitalization prevention		2010-03-03 20:44:00

Author:
Astrosimi
Posts: 2046

Tune in tomorrow for the next exciting episode of... Dawesandaway.... Dawes-y, is very noisy. He is so very very noisy. I don't know, what that's for, but it fits with the tempo beat. Doodoodoo DOO DOO, doo DOOooo doo doo doo. *instrumental solo*

So she said she'll dump the boyfriend who she doesn't like and we will then date in secret until the day before the easter holidays when the secret will be revealed to Girl #1, so that quote endquote "she's got 2 weeks to get over the idea of killing me"		2010-03-03 20:45:00

Author:
Kern
Posts: 5078

Girl #2 has now said "You know after all this [breaking up with Guy #1 twice when he's obsessed with her] I think I could handle [Girl #1] quite easily. Bring it on."

She's actually ready to fight with a friend over me O_O I don't know whether to be happy or worried :S		2010-03-03 23:05:00

Author:
dawesbr
Posts: 3280

happy dawes...happy :3
thats love		2010-03-03 23:24:00

Author:
Littlebigdude805
Posts: 1924

The Perfect Way To Get Out Of This Situation:Run to mexico and begin life as a farmer2010-03-04 00:14:00

Author:
Charlemagne
Posts: 513

Ugh so some other stuff has happened. Imagine the theme tune now, I cannae be bothered to go back a page and copy and paste :

So apparently some people found out about me and Girl #2 and Girl #1 & 2's school (they go together) and one of the annoying ones said that she'd go tell Girl #1. Girl #2 thought it'd be best if Girl #1 heard it from her instead of just as rumour. So Girl #1 now knows. Apparently she was trying to act brave but was crying the whole time. So now everyone knows I think, and I'm still unable to talk to Girl #1 until tomorrow so I still feel awful.

That is all.

*closing theme tune*		2010-03-04 18:55:00

Author:
dawesbr
Posts: 3280

Dawes-y, is very noisy. He is so very very noisy. I don't know, what that's for, but it fits with the tempo beat. Doodoodoo DOO DOO, doo DOOooo doo doo doo. *instrumental solo*

So she said she'll dump the boyfriend who she doesn't like and we will then date in secret until the day before the easter holidays when the secret will be revealed to Girl #1, so that quote endquote "she's got 2 weeks to get over the idea of killing me"		2010-03-04 18:57:00

Author:
Kern
Posts: 5078

Kernel...what was that for again?! Also yeah clearly not going to do that anymore though, I've had texts from people saying "OH SO YOU AND [Girl #2] ARE GOING OUT NOW, NICE." >_<2010-03-04 19:23:00

Author:
dawesbr
Posts: 3280

hmmm
well
you shouldn't hang around with people who bully you... 		2010-03-04 19:27:00

Author:
Kern
Posts: 5078

That's not bullying o_o Things are getting really complicated now, I'll have to find out more by sunday but I'll be out of internet until wednesday so yeah.2010-03-05 02:27:00

Author:
dawesbr
Posts: 3280

Okay so I've been talking to a confidant and the situation is like this:

Girl #1 is a lot more hurt than I thought
Confidant thinks Girl #2 is quick to move on from relationships
Girl #2 is being derided for her handling of Guy #1
If I do go out with Girl #2, Girl #1 will feel worse for a long period of time
If I don't go out with Girl #2, Girl #1 will not feel nearly as bad, and Girl #2 will feel maybe slightly disappointed.
I don't mind going out with Girl #2 or not.


I'm going to talk to them tomorrow, but at the moment it may be that I refrain from going out with Girl #2 for everyone's sake (as considering the scandal around Girl #2 already dating me'd probably make that worse too, then there's girl #1, Guy #1...yeah...)		2010-03-05 03:01:00

Author:
dawesbr
Posts: 3280

I coulndn't be bothered reading all the comments so sorry if this has been said.

Anyway, do you actually know that she has been depressed before in the past. I'm not trying to be mean to her but from your story it sounds to me like she might be playing with ya. As you said you and girl#2 both like eachother and both want to go out but can't because of girl#1. Personally I don't think it's just coincedence that she will become depressed, this is of course only if you don't know that she has been depressed before.

Looks like Girl#2 has the perfect situation, either you do go out with her (she gets what she wants) or you don't and she makes you feel guilty gives you a bad rep (also gets what she wants, maybe). At the end of the day though there really is only on choice, If you and Girl#2 both like eachother go out with her.

Just my 2 cents, and I've got a glass of coke waiting for me, hope this helps.		2010-03-05 06:48:00

Author:
SR20DETDOG
Posts: 2431

Dum dum dum, ,,,, dum,dum dedededum.2010-03-05 09:45:00

Author:
robotiod
Posts: 2662

TBH i think you should go out with Girl #1. Girl #2 didn't trust you enough to tell you she had a boyfriend and then dumped the boyfriend to go out with you. What if that happens again? and she finds someone she likes even more? what then? Girl #1 will surely have moved on. Whereas if you go out with Girl #1, Then Girl #2 will (if what you say is correct) Get over it very quickly, It is obvious that Girl #1 loves you a lot, But Girl #2 however dumped someone she had a long term relationship with, Now, This means that the same thing could happen to you, Thereby making you look like an Idiot, and her look like a "slag" for moving on so quickly, if you go out with #1 then you are in for a committed relationship if you however find #1 a bit too "obsessive" for your tastes, then don't go out with any of them, Find a Girl #3 and .2010-03-05 19:16:00

Author:
Kern
Posts: 5078

dawes have you been killeded yet? :O2010-03-08 04:03:00

Author:
Littlebigdude805
Posts: 1924

First of all you must impress your woman with a manly display of bravado, so I suggest you grunt aggressively, thrust your groin at her and gouge out your eye with a rock. Next you will need to woo her with a romantic gift such as a chicken bone hair ornament, a necklace made of severed rat's tails or a thong woven from ox hide. Finally you must take her by the hair and drag her kicking and screaming up the mountainside where...

Oh s**t, my wife is coming! :eek:		2010-03-08 21:14:00

Author:
Ungreth
Posts: 2130

I can haz internet back?

So yeah here's the lo-down. Girl #1 seemed ok at first on Friday but when Girl #2's name came up she turned away and hid her face in a friend's shoulder. She seemed ok-ish for the rest of the night but I knew she wasn't so I went to try and talk to her. I asked her if she was ok, she said "huhwhatyeahI'mfine" then walked off, so, obviously she wasn't. I persisted, saying how I didn't want to hurt her etc., and the most I got was "you're not the first guy to do this to me." I felt pretty bad after that but I think she saw so we parted with a hug. Meanwhile, using my astral projection machine, a.k.a. guessing, Girl #2 and I will go out soon enough, I mean, we've said as much to each other, we're just waiting for Girl #1 to calm down. Funny story, Girl #2 was viewing photos of me on facebook when her sister walked in (who's a year younger than me) and said "oooh who's that he's cute" and then Girl #2 had to shout her down. Funny stuff 		2010-03-09 21:53:00

Author:
dawesbr
Posts: 3280

*Closing theme* dum dum dee dum doo daaaaaa ooooh aahhhhhh llleeee laaaaaaaaaaaaaaa duuum muppet power!!!*

Yes that's right we have a new theme tune now!		2010-03-09 21:56:00

Author:
Doopz
Posts: 5592

Glad to hear you got it resolved.2010-03-10 04:57:00

Author:
Ragfell
Posts: 729

Far from resolved :S Though Girl #2 has asked me to her school's prom Girl #1 is still saying how she's struggling coping to me. Gayaaaah!2010-03-10 23:08:00

Author:
dawesbr
Posts: 3280

What a great read!! So what finally happened??? Hope you are happy with Girl number 10 by now!2010-05-01 00:25:00

Author:
gamegirl
Posts: 101


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