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Sad Times for Icey and Rhy.
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| I feel ready now to explain to the community why myself and Rhy have not been as active on the forum recently. On Tuesday 20th October, just over two weeks ago, my sister Anne was walking beside her husband Gerald who was in his electric wheelchair. A car came out of the car park opposite them. It hit Gerald, knocked him out of his chair and then hit Anne. It dragged her underneath it before pinning her against the wall of the Town Hall. A lot of people called the emergency services and tried to help Anne and Gerald. An air ambulance arrived at the scene fifteen minutes later. Gerald, who had a stroke 10 years ago, was taken to hospital, he suffered a broken shoulder and two broken ribs. He is recovering well. Anne had to be resuscitated at the scene. She was taken to a multiple injuries unit at a city hospital. Anne has broken her neck. She has a fractured skull and severe injuries to the frontal and temporal lobes of her brain. Her brain was also starved of oxygen for an unknown period of time. Doctor's and nurses have battled to save her life and so far she remains stable. They are now waiting for her to wake up. She is no longer sedated. She isn't waking up. We will not know the extent of the damage to her brain until she does. We do know her life can never be the same again. I am at the hospital all day and Rhy is with me every evening. We try to stay positive. I am weakening. Selfishly, I felt posting this to you all might help me find some strength. mrsvista and mrvista have supported me the entire time and I thank them with all my heart. Icey | 2009-11-05 21:27:00 Author: IceMaiden  Posts: 1057 |
| Oh my god, I'm so sorry for you, for Rhy, and especially for Anne and Gerald. There is no need to feel "selfish" for coming here, my thoughts and I'm sure everyone else's are with you and your family. Whichever inconsiderate person was driving that car has obviously caused you a lot of pain, and I'm sure I speak for everyone when I extend my heartfelt apologies for your tough times and that we are all with you through them. | 2009-11-05 21:32:00 Author: dawesbr  Posts: 3280 |
Oh Icey! I'm so sorry to hear of your tragic and sad news. Know that you and Rhy and your sister & brother in law will be in my thoughts. Find strength with your family and friends and know that you are not alone in this. Sending positivity your way - hang in there.  | 2009-11-05 21:34:00 Author: Morgana25  Posts: 5983 |
| You are not being selfish in any way at all Icey, you are just explaining to the community why you two havn't been around lately. I'm sure a lot of members have missed you both and will give you as much support as they can. You know you are very welcome and I just wish we could do more to help. | 2009-11-05 21:36:00 Author: mrsvista  Posts: 755 |
Oh god, i'm so sorry to hear this. And here was me thinking Rhy had left us in the sig exchange for no reason  You have my condolences, and i hope it will all turn out ok, that's so sad | 2009-11-05 21:38:00 Author: Unknown User  |
| Oh god, that is truly tragic news. I'm so sorry. Really, I am. That must be incredibly hard for all of you...I'm so sorry to hear it, I really am. I honestly don't know what to say here, but my heart goes out to you and your family. I'm really, really useless at comforting people, but I can't bear to think what you must be going through. Be strong, we're all here to support you. -ARD | 2009-11-05 21:40:00 Author: ARD  Posts: 4291 |
| My God. That is just horrible, I am truly sorry you have to be going through this. I hope you, Rhy, Gerald, and Anne all recover well and my sympathy goes out to all of you. Nothing much I can do really, but I'll pray for all of you. | 2009-11-05 21:40:00 Author: Whalio Cappuccino  Posts: 5250 |
| Icey, I can?t say how sorry I am to hear your sad news. What a terrible thing to have happened. I know how hard it must be to stay positive all the time ? no one is superhuman and you should take support from wherever you can find it, including from here. Lots of virtual hugs coming your way and you and Rhy and your sister and her husband will be in my thoughts. | 2009-11-05 21:46:00 Author: shropshirelass  Posts: 1455 |
| That is tragic, just absolutely tragic. I wish you and your family peace from the pain this event has caused, even if it takes a long, long time for it to come. | 2009-11-05 21:48:00 Author: mrsupercomputer  Posts: 1335 |
| Woah. That is not good... I hope they recover and get better! I have never felt this emotional pain yet, and it must be hard for you and them. Best wishes, -chezhead | 2009-11-05 21:50:00 Author: chezhead  Posts: 1063 |
| Aw that is horrible! Be strong! I hope you all pull out of this situation with happiness and relief. I'm terrible at comforting but I'm trying... | 2009-11-05 21:56:00 Author: KQuinn94Z  Posts: 1758 |
| Man, that's terrible! I hope they're all okay. | 2009-11-05 21:59:00 Author: iiiijujube  Posts: 594 |
| Keep strong Icey! You are all in our thoughts right now, and I truly wish that things turn out for the best. You're not selfish for posting, its times like this that you need the strength of others to help get through. | 2009-11-05 22:02:00 Author: Burnvictim42  Posts: 3322 |
| You have my best wishes Icey. I really hope the thread and the kindness of folks here on the forum gives you some support. Jules | 2009-11-05 22:07:00 Author: julesyjules  Posts: 1156 |
| :O im really sorry to hear that .. that must be rly hard for all of you.. i really dont know what to say but um yeah im really sorry to hear that i Hope they get well ASAP im sure they will be fine. HUGE HUGS for ya*. if you need anything just ask me | 2009-11-05 22:11:00 Author: Joey  Posts: 758 |
| So horribly sorry to hear the details Icey. Whatever comfort and support that we can give you is yours for the taking. Never feel it a selfish thing to ask for help and support. We are merely human and at times it takes more strength than one person can muster. That support comes from family and friends. You and Rhy have many friends here as well as part of our family. We cherish the moments you have spent with us and hope there will be many more. My hopes and thoughts are for Anne and Gerald, you, Rhy and your entire family. Whatever comfort we can help give you, please never hesitate to ask. All the best. {{{warm hug}}} | 2009-11-05 22:13:00 Author: jwwphotos  Posts: 11383 |
| Aww Icey and Rhy! I am so sorry to hear this. It must be a tremendously difficult time for you and your family, and you have my heartfelt empathy and best wishes. Mine and Andrew's thoughts are with you both. I'm very sorry, I wish I could say more x | 2009-11-05 22:15:00 Author: MrsSpookyBuz  Posts: 1492 |
| Words fail me right now, as this is terrible news. You will both be in my prayers. I'm so sorry. | 2009-11-05 22:23:00 Author: xkappax  Posts: 2569 |
| There's another forum I go to, where a lot of the members are very religious. I made a post about this, and I know it's not much, but here is a response: Remaining unconscious can be the Lord's way of helping the brain to heal. I will indeed pray for the family. | 2009-11-05 22:28:00 Author: ARD Posts: 4291 |
| I'm so sorry Icey. I wish you and your family the strength to make it through the day, each and every day, until both Gerald and Anne make a full recovery. I hope that all the positive energy your friends on this forum are sending your way gives you a little bit of strength and hope. Not that you were being selfish in any way whatsoever, you should feel free to be selfish and unburden yourself by sharing the load with your friends, even if just a little every day, so that you can remain strong for those who need you to be strong for them. We're here for you as you would be for us had the circumstances been otherwise. My thoughts, prayers, positive energy, are all headed your way. | 2009-11-05 22:52:00 Author: ScoutsBoo  Posts: 63 |
| Thoughts, prayers, and best energies and wishes for recovery! Horrible thing to have experienced but I wish you all the strength to make it through this. | 2009-11-05 23:08:00 Author: Foofles  Posts: 2278 |
| Im very sorry to hear this Icey. I hope things get better for you soon. | 2009-11-05 23:16:00 Author: wexfordian  Posts: 1904 |
| Thank you all so much for your kindness. Each and every response means so much to both me and Rhy. I feel stronger again now and when I see Anne tomorrow morning I will be able to sound positive when I talk to her. I am sure she can hear me. I will massage her hands, it helps to stimulate her brain and I will tell her how much she is loved and that I know a lot of lovely people who care enough to help me to help her. Icey | 2009-11-05 23:38:00 Author: IceMaiden Posts: 1057 |
| *sigh* omg out of all the people in the world why must it happen to the ones we love. I extend my support and sorrow, I hope they pull through | 2009-11-05 23:47:00 Author: Littlebigdude805  Posts: 1924 |
| Oh no. That is incredible, awful, and too frightening to imagine. I have a sister who I've known all my life, and I cannot imagine how I would handle this sort of thing. You already are showing more strength than I could do in that situation. Thank you for bringing this to us. I'm so, so sorry to hear about it. I wish there was something more we could do. I can't say I'm right in there with you because it is too scary to properly imagine, but I assure you this has affected everyone who's read it, and we all desperately want things to get better. I hope they do very soon, because the uncertainty of waiting is quite bad on the old nerves. Keep it together, and if you find that you can't keep it together, just know that I sure wouldn't be able to either. I'm so, so sorry. Here's a sad sackboy wearing a helmet who appears to be quite empathetic. Who knows what he's been through? | 2009-11-05 23:59:00 Author: Teebonesy  Posts: 1937 |
No! It sounds like something terrible from a tragic horror movie  I'm not sure what to say, but like we've all said, you're not being selfish at all. Stay off lbpc for as long as you'd like. | 2009-11-06 00:06:00 Author: Incinerator22  Posts: 3251 |
| There isn't really much to say in situations like these. I give my best wishes, and a small bit of advice, something I've learned from experience with things like this: Always look up and look forward. They are both alive and have warm, loving family members beside them to give them strength. I had a friend who was hit by a drunk driver two or three years ago and he wasn't so lucky. He was killed instantly. It's things like this that make you appreciate life that much more. | 2009-11-06 00:28:00 Author: BSprague  Posts: 2325 |
| This is sad. I wish them the best from me and LBPCentral. Good luck. | 2009-11-06 01:31:00 Author: CyberSora Posts: 5551 |
| oh my god...and i thought it was tough for my family now!i meen my mom and dad both got h1n1(swine flu)and i might be next...my grandma just barely got out of the emergency room...and my dad is coping with losing his job,and besides the fact...one of my aunts was killed in the bridge collaspse(don't remember the name)last year... its a hard world we live in,and the best thing to do is too look back on they're lives and remember the good times(anne anyways) and emotinally prepare yourself just in case...its scary to think that,but there is obviouslly that possibility she might die...i don't meen to give up,just...you know...for your sake... i feel like i was hit with an imaginary truck of sorrow when i heard this...it must be 1,000,000x worse for you...good luck best wishes - swweet | 2009-11-06 03:21:00 Author: theswweet  Posts: 2468 |
| Oh, man Icey. I'm truly sorry to here about your sister. We all wish her the best of luck and hope for the best of recoveries. We are all here for your support. I hope you are holding up, and we'll miss you while you're gone (but we totally understand). Take care, sister... | 2009-11-06 03:31:00 Author: comphermc  Posts: 5338 |
| Our family's thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I'm available for you and Rhy 24/7 if you need to talk. Just let me know. | 2009-11-06 15:13:00 Author: Lady_Luck__777  Posts: 3458 |
| Oh dear. I feel so bad for them. I will definitely keep them in my prayers. Keep us posted on future info if it's released. Nitro--Racer I will pray for them, and for their family too. I will make sure to pray for them. Many people are praying for you. Sometimes strangers can be the kindest of people. | 2009-11-06 16:22:00 Author: ARD Posts: 4291 |
| Whoa Icey thats really sad Im sorry to hear that but you just gotta stay strong and she will pull through Again Im really sorry and its good to hear Gerald is recovering hopefully Anne will to | 2009-11-06 17:40:00 Author: AliBoy1  Posts: 142 |
| Oh my... I am so very saddened to hear of your news. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family in these difficult times. I'm glad to hear that Gerald is doing well though. I've just sent a little positive energy out into the universe with your sister Anne's name on it, she should be receiving it soon with all the other good energy I just know people are sending her way. I hope for the best outcome possible for your sister and that her recovery is a speedy one. Not selfish, not selfish at all. I know it sounds silly and cliche at times like this when things seem so overwhelming... but staying positive really does wonders for the soul and for the sick. Stay well IceMaiden. | 2009-11-06 20:14:00 Author: Rustbukkit  Posts: 1737 |
| I am so sorry to hear that. Try to stay strong, and as hard as it might be, don't forget to smile. | 2009-11-06 20:26:00 Author: hilightnotes  Posts: 1230 |
| Oh wow... man, that is absolutely terrifying and horrible. Don't feel selfish for posting it, we all need a shoulder to lean on once in a while, as my fellow posters have said before me, and there's no shame in that. Prayers are with you and Rhy. I'd write more but I have to go. Best of wishes..... | 2009-11-06 21:24:00 Author: Astrosimi  Posts: 2046 |
| I thought you all might like to know that today I have been feeling much more positive and I know it's because you have all been so kind to me and Rhy. I told Anne today that a lot of lovely people are wishing her well, sending her positive energy and praying for her. I am sure that if she could, she would say thank you too. Anne is still stable and has begun to show some reflexes although she is still asleep. She had a lovely wash and her hair combed. She looks beautiful. Icey | 2009-11-06 22:55:00 Author: IceMaiden Posts: 1057 |
| Oh my God. This is not great times for you. I just read the first post and I am touched by your story. I actually hope I could do more than a mere internet encouragement. I hope my sincerety will give you some strenght. You need to keep up the moral. Eat well, sleep well and please work your way on staying positive. Don't be selfish either, your sister might not completely recover but there IS positive aspects about the reality that she isn't dead. Stay strong buddy. Stay close to your friends and family and please entertain yourself regularly. This eases the mind. Hold on buddy. . | 2009-11-07 02:34:00 Author: RangerZero  Posts: 3901 |
| Oh God that's horrible ... Personally I would have hunted down whoever ran into them. I hope they get better soon. | 2009-11-07 15:35:00 Author: TheMarvelousHat  Posts: 542 |
| My condolences I don't even know what to say. Surely no one here would slight you for being with those you hold most dear. I mean after all. LBP is just a game. I hope Anne will pull through and I just. I don't know what else to say. | 2009-11-09 01:17:00 Author: pantspantspants  Posts: 189 |
| I would just like to share with everyone the progress Anne is making with her brave fight for recovery. She has now started to respond to pain in a positive way. She is scoring 10 on the GCS scale. A healthy person would score 15. She is so clever! She is being weaned off the ventilator and has managed 3 hours breathing for herself with a little support from the CPAP machine. Brilliant! She has also started to move her left arm quite well and her eyes are opening spontaneously. Although this sounds and looks like she's awake, because the movements are involuntary and she has no awareness, she actually isn't. I can't tell you how it feels to see her do the slightest little thing, even if she doesn't know she's doing it. It gives us hope and she has come so far, we are trying so hard to help her, however long it takes, to come back to us. I will keep in touch with Anne's progress. Our sincere thanks again to everyone for their kindness. Icey and Rhy | 2009-11-10 00:00:00 Author: IceMaiden Posts: 1057 |
| Good to hear she is showing signs of improvement albeit slight. Fingers crossed that it continues and she can make a good recovery. Our best wishes are with you all. Lots of love from the vistas xxx | 2009-11-10 00:08:00 Author: mistervista  Posts: 2210 |
| That's really great news, Icey! I strongly hope this progress continues... | 2009-11-10 00:17:00 Author: comphermc Posts: 5338 |
| Wow!! That is such wonderful news, even though it seems small that sounds like great progress! Thanks so much for sharing!! You all are in our thoughts and sending much love from my girlfriend as well as myself. (..if you didn't know, my girlfriend is now on this forum! TheCountessZ) Wishing you all the best!!! | 2009-11-10 00:20:00 Author: jwwphotos Posts: 11383 |
| Oh, that's great news! So good to hear that she is taking even small steps towards recovery. Seeing it happening must really help to keep you going, too. Very best wishes! | 2009-11-10 00:41:00 Author: shropshirelass Posts: 1455 |
| IceMaiden, I am so happy to hear this good news! I've been praying for your family every night, and i will continue to. Thanks for keeping us updated. ^_^ | 2009-11-10 01:12:00 Author: xkappax Posts: 2569 |
| Thanks so much for the update. It's so great to know that things are actively improving. This must be an emotionally exhausting time for you guys - please continue to keep us all updated, I'm eagerly anticipating any and all positive breakthroughs! Thanks again for sharing these hard times with us. I sincerely hope things will continue to only get better from here. Sometimes it takes a spot of chaos and extreme hardship to help you realize how great things can be. I know lately I've been taking things much less for granted because of this. Hugging my girlfriend more than usual, and sending lots of emails to my sister out of the blue. Thank you for that. | 2009-11-10 01:28:00 Author: Teebonesy Posts: 1937 |
| I can't begin to imagine how stressful the whole situation must be for you. I'm so sorry. You've shown strength that I don't think I'd have in me if I were in your place. So glad to hear that your sister is showing signs of recovery. If she has your strength, she'll get there faster than you know it. And don't forget that you'll always have people here to talk to if you need to, or even just if you want to. | 2009-11-10 02:54:00 Author: Matt 82  Posts: 1096 |
| I'm so glad there's encouraging news about Anne. Believe me, there is nothing selfish about posting even bad news. Look at all the people who are praying for her who wouldn't have known to otherwise. So your post was actually a gift to your sister. God does answers prayers, and he does it in His own time and own way. Bless you Icey! | 2009-11-10 03:22:00 Author: TheCountessZ  Posts: 537 |
| So glad to hear the good news, I will continue to pray for her and all of you. Stay strong, she'll make it through. | 2009-11-10 03:43:00 Author: Whalio Cappuccino Posts: 5250 |
| Don't feel selfish for turning to us. After all, we're friends, and that's what friends do for eachother. I'll pray for Anne and Gerald every night until they're both up and well again. I'll also pray for you, because you don't deserve to have to go through any of this. Xen | 2009-11-10 03:49:00 Author: Xenifus  Posts: 306 |
| Excellent, Icey! Glad to hera your sister is making progress! Know that now the situation will only go uphill from here. Worry not; everything will be fine. | 2009-11-10 03:59:00 Author: Astrosimi Posts: 2046 |
| So glad to hear there's positive progress. Wishing her continued success and sending more good thoughts to you and your family Icey. | 2009-11-10 04:13:00 Author: Morgana25 Posts: 5983 |
| Glad to hear that progress is being made! | 2009-11-10 04:37:00 Author: mrsupercomputer Posts: 1335 |
| I just discovered this thread...I'm so sorry for you, my thoughts are with you!! Very glad to hear that there is something a little positive is happening right now. | 2009-11-10 05:58:00 Author: Zwollie  Posts: 2173 |
| Icey, I too have just discovered this thread, and was so saddened to hear of your family's misfortune. Please know that you will be in my prayers (and those of my family). It seems impractical to even suggest, given my locale, but if there is anything - anything at all - that I can do to help you, please don't hesitate to ask. You and Rhy are valued members of this fine community, and the kinship you are feeling in this thread, I believe to be sincerely heartfelt. I'm encouraged by your recent news and hope for continued progress. Please pass our well wishes on to Rhy and your family. And both of you take care of yourselves - get some rest and sustenance. You'll be no good to Anne in her recovery if you're not physically strong and able. Keep your face to the Son! | 2009-11-10 06:30:00 Author: v0rtex  Posts: 1878 |
| Like Vortex, I've just seen this now and my heart is truly aching for you all. How tragic, but what a relief that Anne is starting to make some progress. Sometimes we need to have faith in our body's ability to heal itself. It takes a really long time sometimes, but the brain is an amazing thing. Hang in there, but please take time to rest when you need to. Being fatigued can make it really hard to stay positive and focused. It never ceases to amaze me how accidents like this happen so often to people who already have their fair share of obstacles in life, but perhaps they are the ones best equipped to cope? Who knows? Life is strange. I will be praying for you all as well - particularly Anne - but also the medical staff caring for her. She is very blessed to have a sister like you, Icey. I'm sure that your constant presence is having a positive effect on her as well, even if she appears unresponsive. Physical contact - even just proximity - with those we love is incredibly powerful : ) Take care and we'll see you both here when we see you. | 2009-11-10 10:17:00 Author: BabyDoll1970  Posts: 1567 |
| my sincere wishes go out to anne and gerald keep strong icey adn rhy the whole lpbc community is here to support you | 2009-11-11 01:44:00 Author: siccology  Posts: 279 |
| Any update regarding Anne's progress? | 2009-11-14 04:27:00 Author: Jagrevi  Posts: 1154 |
| Thank you for asking Jagrevi, this is for all my lovely friends here. Anne has been transferred to another hospital because the Multiple Injuries Unit that she was in cannot do anything more for her medically. She is now in an ITU ward with the sole aim of weaning her off the ventilator so that she can begin rehabillitation. Her current condition is stable. Her broken neck is being treated without surgical intervention. She wears a neck brace to keep it immobilised. The same treatment for her broken leg. She is responding to pain with all her limbs, more so with her right arm which she also moves involuntarily whenever she is awake. She has her eyes open a lot but doesn't focus on anything. She doesn't respond to commands and until she does no one will know the exact extent of the damage done to her brain by the injuries. It appears she doesn't have any awareness. She may never have again. I am praying and hoping that she will improve and will be able to see, hear and communicate with us in some way. I do not want to accept that this is it for her. I want her to have her life back. I am going to find it difficult to spend as much time with Anne now, the hospital is miles away from us. I don't like it. I miss her. Thank you all for your continuing support. Both me and Rhy appreciate it very much. Icey | 2009-11-14 11:45:00 Author: IceMaiden Posts: 1057 |
| Thanks for the update Icey, I don't really have anything else to say apart from that I really hope that she'll be okay in the end. | 2009-11-14 12:08:00 Author: olit123  Posts: 1341 |
| Again, you need to be strong, and I think you're doing a good job of it, Icey. Keep it up! I have infinite hope that things can work out as long as a positive attitude is maintained. Keep us all updated, and good luck! | 2009-11-14 16:17:00 Author: xkappax Posts: 2569 |
Like Kappa, says, a positive attitude is EVERYTHING. You believe in Karma? When you have a good attitude, you send out good karma, and you receive more in return  That said, I'm keeping the most positive thoughts about this. Everything WILL be fine | 2009-11-14 18:06:00 Author: Astrosimi Posts: 2046 |
| *pats icey on the back* Be strong and don't lose hope that your sister'll be ok. It's a tragic event that occured and hopefully that driver had some type of punishment. *quickly finds all details and tracks down the driver and sharpens knife* | 2009-11-14 20:30:00 Author: ktang77  Posts: 592 |
| Now, now, Ktang.... it's not right to ferment hate. | 2009-11-15 01:08:00 Author: Astrosimi Posts: 2046 |
| I think now is the time to tell you all about the driver. He is a 72 year old man who had just had a new car with an automatic gear box. He wasn't used to the controls and he hit the accelerator instead of the brake. It's easy and natural to feel hate and anger towards him and as far as punishment goes, that is in the hands of the police. Having said that, after living seventy two years of his life, good or bad years, he now has to live with the knowledge of what he did for the rest of his life and I feel that is punishment enough whatever the outcome of the police report. Icey | 2009-11-15 08:22:00 Author: IceMaiden Posts: 1057 |
| oh Icey - that makes it even more sad. You are a very generous person for being able to see both sides of this tragedy, especially given how personal it is for you. Many people couldn't see from this drivers point of view given what's happened and I'm not suggesting he is without responsibility entirely but..... wow. Continued best wishes for your family and to you as well Still thinking warm thoughts for you all. | 2009-11-15 08:26:00 Author: Morgana25 Posts: 5983 |
| Hello everyone, sorry I haven't been able to give you all an update lately, I have had a couple of problems to sort out. My daughter has been at home with me because she has a kidney infection so I have been looking after her and my son has Swine Flu. It's been a worrying time and I haven't been able to see Anne for a whole week. I have been in touch with her daughter every day and here is the latest on Anne's progress. She is no longer on the main ventilator, just a little oxygen support. She has more control over her left hand and has pulled her feeding tube out twice. Isn't she a tinker! She can move her legs slightly. She can follow the light when they shine it in her eyes. She moves her head slightly, although that is restricted because she wears a neck brace. This is the best part, Anne SMILED. Not at anyone but who cares! Although Anne doesn't respond to commands yet, these are such positive signs and I am so proud of her, she is fighting so hard bless her heart. Gerald continues to recover well and is having physiotherapy to improve his mobility. Icey | 2009-11-19 20:55:00 Author: IceMaiden Posts: 1057 |
| Great to hear that she's still improving Icey! Keep the updates coming. | 2009-11-19 21:05:00 Author: olit123 Posts: 1341 |
| Excellent news Icey, you must be so pleased at Anne's progress. I bet you can't wait to see Anne again. Best wishes and get well soon to your son and daughter, hope they are both soon feeling better. Thank you for keeping us all updated Icey. You and all your family are in mrv's and my thoughts. | 2009-11-19 21:17:00 Author: mrsvista Posts: 755 |
| She sounds like a real fighter You have had a bad time of it, haven't you I really, from the bottom of my heart, wish you and your family all the happiness in the world. It will make me soooo pleased WHEN your sister makes her recovery. My thoughts are with you x x | 2009-11-19 21:24:00 Author: dorien  Posts: 2767 |
| This is the best part, Anne SMILED. Not at anyone but who cares! I actually teared up a bit right there. So great to hear... Thanks for the update and I'm so, so glad that things are getting better! Hang in there! | 2009-11-19 21:39:00 Author: supersickie  Posts: 1366 |
| Icey, thanks very much for finding the time to keep updating us. It's only a miniscule part LBPC is playing, but believe me, no one who reads your messages isn't going to be touched in some way. I'm not very good at offering prayers or karma, but I hope you can take comfort in the fact that every time Anne makes a little progress, they are in fact massive steps. My best wishes to you. | 2009-11-19 21:43:00 Author: MrsSpookyBuz Posts: 1492 |
| Hi Icey, Great news that Anne is improving! I'm glad to hear she has a daughter.. the more love and support the better. But so sorry to hear about your own children's illnesses. You are having a very rough trot right now! I wish I could speed things up for you, but in the meantime, you're still in my thoughts and prayers and I hope there are lots of things and people nearby (or online) who can give you some laughter and happy moments, which you need and deserve.. you know, to balance out the stress and demands, if that's possible. I think it is. Love & best wishes x | 2009-11-19 22:40:00 Author: BabyDoll1970 Posts: 1567 |
| Wow, Icey, I'm so glad that Anne seems to be showing signs of moving in the right direction. We are all pulling for her greatly! You have shown yourself to be a very strong woman this past month! | 2009-11-19 22:44:00 Author: comphermc Posts: 5338 |
| I seconds comph. Not many people would last through this in the way you have. The worst has passed now, though, and you can live a bit of calm knowing she will improve. And thank you for updating us on the driver's side of the tale... no human beings would cause this amount of suffering on purpose, and we should keep that in mind. Positive attitude! -Astro | 2009-11-19 23:07:00 Author: Astrosimi Posts: 2046 |
| no human beings would cause this amount of suffering on purpose, and we should keep that in mind. While I agree that the driver had no malice in mind and should not be demonized, it should be pointed out that the above statement is blatantly not true. I'm not very good at offering prayers or karma, but ... (...) ... My best wishes to you. Ditto. | 2009-11-22 18:27:00 Author: Jagrevi Posts: 1154 |
| While I agree that the driver had no malice in mind and should not be demonized, it should be pointed out that the above statement is blatantly not true. I was actually thinking that when I wrote the comment, but I left it like that because it would have been a self-defeating argument otherwise  But thanks for pointing it out. | 2009-11-22 19:46:00 Author: Astrosimi Posts: 2046 |
| It's great to hear that Anne is making progress! Keep fighting (and smiling) Anne! | 2009-11-22 20:05:00 Author: mrsupercomputer Posts: 1335 |
| Thanks so much for sharing the news Icey! Knowing that your sister is improving is indeed great hope. We will keep Anne in our thoughts and keep hoping and praying for continued improvement! Keep us posted! | 2009-11-22 20:39:00 Author: jwwphotos Posts: 11383 |
| It is so good to hear that Anne is showing signs of recovery and even smiling (which is both lovely and sort of heart catching at the same time). These small steps forwards must be giving you hope and strength to go on, but please do take care of yourself too! Thinking of you and Anne. | 2009-11-22 21:23:00 Author: shropshirelass Posts: 1455 |
| Gosh, some really shocking times for you Icey. I can't begin to imagine what you've been through. I'm so sorry. Glad to hear things are beginning to look up, I'll keep my fingers crossed. x | 2009-11-22 23:59:00 Author: Kiminski  Posts: 545 |
| Hello everyone, here I am at last with news on Anne's progress. During the last week a lot of things have happened. Anne is no longer on a ventilator, she can breathe entirely for herself. Her broken leg doesn't need a splint anymore, just a tubular bandage. Her broken neck is healing, both myself and Rhy have seen the x-rays and we can see the bones fusing together. If the healing process continues as well as it has, Anne's neck brace might be removed in about a weeks time and will be replaced with a soft collar. The trachy tube has also been removed now because Anne can cough for herself and clear her lungs. She can also swallow. I have saved the best for last. Anne is awake and can speak to us. She has no idea what she is saying yet and is very confused and doesn't recognise us but it's a miracle that she can communicate using her own voice even if we don't have a clue what she is talking about! She did mention porridge quite a lot bless her. Anne's consultant is going to transfer her to a Neuro rehabilitation ward soon. We cannot believe how well she has done and how strong and determined she must be. She told Rhy she is frightened. I think my heart will break. Icey | 2009-11-28 21:44:00 Author: IceMaiden Posts: 1057 |
| You are all so brave. Glad things are going in the right direction. Hopefully in time everything will fall into place. Good luck Icey. | 2009-11-28 21:54:00 Author: mrsvista Posts: 755 |
| That's excellent news that she is awake! She certainly is a fighter It's a good sign her speech is still there hopefully the rest will catch up. Continued support to you and your family Icey. | 2009-11-28 21:56:00 Author: Morgana25 Posts: 5983 |
| Thank you very much for the update. It's great to hear that she's awake. | 2009-11-28 21:58:00 Author: Jagrevi Posts: 1154 |
| It's fantastic to hear how much progress Anne has made! She obviously has great inner strength and courage and I'm sure they will see her through this. Keep hanging on in there and take care of yourself! | 2009-11-28 22:00:00 Author: shropshirelass Posts: 1455 |
| You know, I feel really bad not saying anything earlier. I thought I did, but obviously, nothing went through, and I do apologise. I'm glad to hear that your sister is recovering well, it breaks my heart to even think about what you and Rhy must be going through, I truly respect your bravery and courage in these tough times and hope that Anne continues to recover her strength. I'm really, really sorry...I give you my best wishes. If only I could do more, but just know that all of us are here to support you. | 2009-11-28 22:02:00 Author: KoRnDawwg  Posts: 1424 |
| Oh my god, that's incredible. It's sounding amazingly hopeful. Seems safe to say that the worst is over. Anne's gradually made it this far, and I'm sure she'll continue to go farther and farther. I really hope the neurorehabilitation goes well and she can start piecing together the fragments soon. It sounds like her body's healing wonderfully, I guess the next step's going to be a bit trickier. This whole thing seems like just such a shattering experience. It's amazing and humbling to be following this news. | 2009-11-28 22:22:00 Author: Teebonesy Posts: 1937 |
| That is fantastic news, Icey. How you and Rhy and family are coping is beyond amazing, and Anne's progress is beyond the beyond! I tense every time I see you post, but this is fabulous news. This was a person who wasn't breathing on her own a few weeks back. What a fighter! I'm so bloody pleased. I honestly hope that you and Rhy can have a private brandy and hug during this traumatic time. Big hugs and lots of love from the Spooky household. This thread trivialises any other on here - Water? Online create? Pfft!!! Our silly debates pale when something of this magnitude is happening. | 2009-11-28 22:32:00 Author: MrsSpookyBuz Posts: 1492 |
| I have to echo what MrsSpookyBuz said as I don't think I could say it any better. You, Rhy and your entire family have undoubtedly have more strength and courage than anyone I have known. Anne comes from good stock and it shows as her progress tells me that she is trying her best to mend. This is just such great news. ...I suspect it will still take some time for the pieces to come together for her and she might be frightened till it all settles. Having such a wonderful and strong sister and family works miracles at times and indeed I think this is easily a case where all your love is helping her heal at an incredible rate. Best wishes and please take some time for yourselves to keep your strength up as I am sure Anne would want you to regroup. She needs you healthy and not a wreck!  Bless you all!! | 2009-11-28 22:52:00 Author: jwwphotos Posts: 11383 |
| Thank you all so much. I can't begin to tell you how much we appreciate all your messages of support. We are trying to cling to little moments of normality here and there. Rhy has been so, so kind. mrsvista is keeping in touch with me every single day, she has helped me so much. I have to admit I do have moments of weakness and don't know what to do. I'm forgetting who I am. Thank you all again, Icey | 2009-11-28 23:25:00 Author: IceMaiden Posts: 1057 |
| Icey, This recent news of Anne's progress brought a tear to my eye. I will continue to pray for you and yours, and please stay strong, for the sake of all involved. Anne is very lucky to have such a loving family around her. Thank you for letting us play some small role in these very personal matters. We're here for you if there is anything you need. | 2009-11-29 00:29:00 Author: v0rtex Posts: 1878 |
| I have to admit I do have moments of weakness and don't know what to do. I'm forgetting who I am. There's nothing to be ashamed of in moments of sorrow. Given your situation, you've been of the greatest strength to have so few. But never think you're forgetting yourself. Within those moments where it seems nothing is right, those moments of "weakness", you grow closer to yourself, and to those around you, and you become stronger than you already are. If such a thing is possible Glad to hear the good news. My positive thoughts are with your sister, although it seems given her progress and spirit, she will not need to have much use for them | 2009-11-29 01:52:00 Author: Astrosimi Posts: 2046 |
| sorry i missed this until now, that's terrible, why must things like these happen? I hope everything stays positive and that you can continue to stay positive. My condolences go out to you. | 2009-11-29 03:19:00 Author: Frank-the-Bunny  Posts: 1246 |
| why must things like these happen? Why must wasp larvae eat the caterpillar alive from the inside out? Why can genocides occur? Why must pain be this painful? Honestly because there's simply nothing to prevent them from ever happening or from being this way. We do our best to avoid tragedy, but ultimately we must admit we live in a world far more indifferent to our suffering than we ourselves are. However what we can do is provide our support to each other when these things do happen. We can provide for each other what the world itself, despite all our pleading, will not. Even merely providing condolence and sympathy in the wake of tragedy is a worthy undertaking. Once again, my sincere sympathies Icey, and please continue to keep up to date. | 2009-11-29 05:55:00 Author: Jagrevi Posts: 1154 |
| Icey, thanks for the update on Anne's great progress and for sharing an intimate piece of your life with us. Your strength, as well as Anne's strength, are truly inspirational. You have a great friend in mrsvista and I hope the community's thoughts, energies, prayers, whatever it may be, will continue to give you more strength to draw from during this difficult time. | 2009-11-29 21:54:00 Author: ScoutsBoo Posts: 63 |
| Hi there, Icey. I'm so, so pleased to hear how Anne's progressing! The human body is a magnificent, complex creation - so much can go seriously wrong with it - but at the same time, it's quite miraculous in the way it works to heal itself! Sounds like Anne's brain is doing all the right things and her awareness will catch up, too, especially if she's made it this far in such a short time. I'm sure it doesn't feel short to you guys, though. Hang in there, Icey. Please don't feel bad about perfectly natural moments of what you call weakness! You don't need to be strong all the time - you've got to release that pressure sometime. I really think it's a human impossibility (unless you're a robot with no feelings for anybody) NOT to feel overwhelmed by exhaustion and emotion to the point where we feel we can't cope. The occasional bawling session can really relieve a bit of pressure, as you probably know. You're already doing what you can do - you're being there and you're loving her. We do lose ourselves in tragedy to an extent, but it's a period that eventually passes and then you'll be able to spend your emotional energy on your own recovery. Considering this, I'm glad to hear your new level is almost ready. Amazing how something like that can keep you feeling somewhat alive. And God bless Rhy for his kindness! Anyhow, you're all still in my prayers and will be until all is well once again, as I'm sure it will be. Take care and find some things to make you smile | 2009-11-29 22:50:00 Author: BabyDoll1970 Posts: 1567 |
| Hello everyone. I feel the need to explain a few things before I tell you how Anne is progressing. I now spend seven hours travelling including waiting time and only two hours with Anne on the days when I see her. Consequently I can't see Anne every day but when I don't I am in constant communication with my family so I don't miss any progress. I hate it, I need to be with her. In the meantime I am trying to keep some sort of normality in our lives for my children and Rhy. Some of my normality has come from being involved with this forum and the game it represents. This in no way means I am being flippant about our situation and I sincerely hope it doesn't appear that way. Anne's body is healing and she is able to sit in a chair and lift her own head. Anne can also stand with support. We are still unsure of the extent of the damage to Anne's brain. Although she can speak and understand what we say, her motor functions don't work properly and so correct speach is difficult for her. We know it's possible for her brain to adapt. This stage of Anne's recovery is difficult, for her and for us to witness. There are a lot of things I can't share with you, but I thank you again for all your support, prayers, thoughts and positivity and hope that you will continue for our sake and especially for Anne's. Icey | 2009-12-09 22:37:00 Author: IceMaiden Posts: 1057 |
| Icey, thanks for sharing. I want to say something that I don't want you to misunderstand: what you and Rhy are going through is an emotional nightmare. The worry and anxiety must be gnawing away. But you mentioned trying to get a bit of 'normality' back into your family by playing LBP and coming on here. Please, do NOT feel bad about this. Firstly, you'd probably feel guilty if you had a nice meal, or had a 'good day', or even laughed! Don't! Anne is recovering slowly, and whatever people believe about prayers or karma or positivity, the facts are that if you are exhausted you won't be able to support her. I don't mean for you to forget the situation, far from it, but look after YOU as well. As for coming on here - well, as a kind, caring, popular friend of mine recently featured in one of her levels, 'We all stand together'. "If you don't feel worry, if you don't feel anxiety, if you don't feel weak, then you have no strength whatsoever." Anon | 2009-12-09 22:57:00 Author: MrsSpookyBuz Posts: 1492 |
| There are a lot of things I can't share with you. Of course. Please do not mistake our sympathetic interest with any attempt to violate your sense of privacy. We encourage you to keep us as updated as possible, but feel no pressure what-so-ever to reveal information that you do not feel comfortable doing or you believe is inappropriate. I don't mean for you to forget the situation, far from it, but look after YOU as well. Second'ed. | 2009-12-10 01:38:00 Author: Jagrevi Posts: 1154 |
| I wont go in detail, but something like this also happened to my father. Ive gone trough 100's of my own written poems to try and find one that might cheer you up a little.. but I couldnt find one that comes close to what I want to say. One last sentence of a dutch poem I have written might come close. Dit is geen verlies zo is gewoon het leven en dat is heus niet altijd zo'n bittere pil Jullie hebben allemaal nog zoveel te geven dus ook al klinkt dit misschien een beetje gek uiteindelijk.. valt alles toch weer op zijn plek This is no loss, this is just life And it wont allways be this sour You still have so much more to give So even though this sounds a little crazy In the end, everything will fall into place again. Take care, Be strong, Hold on! | 2009-12-12 19:41:00 Author: Luos_83  Posts: 2136 |
| With the situation with my mother and her brain tumor, I had to watch my mom get worse and worse over 2 years. You're watching Anne get better. I know it may seem slow and hard at times, but you can get through this! ^_^ I will continue praying and I will continue to try to send good vibes your way! ^_^ | 2009-12-12 22:22:00 Author: xkappax Posts: 2569 |
| I agree with everyone's comments above! | 2009-12-29 05:06:00 Author: BabyDoll1970 Posts: 1567 |
| Hi everyone, here I am after some very difficult weeks, at last ready to give you some news on the progress of my lovely sister Anne. First and foremost Anne's neck is now completely healed, she has good mobility in all her limbs although her right arm and left leg are slightly compromised as a result of her brain injury and broken bones respectively. I have been thorough in establishing Anne's capabilities personally and as a result have discovered that she can read, sort of write and can draw pictures of shapes and simple objects, when I can get her to consentrate for long enough! The person Anne drew had no legs but that was soon rectified when I asked her to add some! Anne can also tell the time and is beginning to recognise people from her past from photographs. The only tube Anne has in her body now is a peg in her tummy to feed her but she has been eating small amounts of liquidised food and today Anne ate her first morsel of solid food, a smidgen of toast with strawberry jam. As far as speach is concerned, we are amazed. There are short periods of time when we have conversations just like we used to. Other times Anne is so muddled in her head nothing makes any sense at all, although she does understand everything we say to her. Anne has her own vocabulary of extremely interesting words. I am going to make a book of them. It will be called The Concise English Dictionary of Anneisms! We still have no idea how well Anne's brain will adapt but I can tell you that she has shown so much courage and determination since her accident she is an inspiration and I can't begin to tell you how proud of her I am, we all are. During my visit with Anne today, she brought me so much joy I was overwhelmed and if she were to stay just as she is I will love her and give her whatever I can to make her life happy, comfortable and content. Thanks to everyone for your continued support both myself and Rhy are touched by your kindness and I would like to give my special thanks to mrsvista and my hero mrvista for being completely wonderful. Regards Icey | 2010-01-06 21:56:00 Author: IceMaiden Posts: 1057 |
| wow thats good to hear | 2010-01-06 22:03:00 Author: rseah  Posts: 2701 |
| What an amazing bit of news! Thanks so much for the update, and for sharing with us such an important and personal part of your life. I continue to pray for and think of Anne, and am wishing I could meet her. You staying by her side and so involved with her progress is also an inspiration. Continued well wishes for you, Rhy, Anne, and the rest of your family! | 2010-01-06 22:06:00 Author: v0rtex Posts: 1878 |
| It's great to hear how well things are going - or, at least how well things are going all things considered. While you are under no obligation to reveal aspects of your personal life here, I do have to admit I did have some niggling concerns given how long we had gone without an update. I have to say that I am most relieved, more so than any specific fact that you passed on, over the tone of your post. I feel horribly selfish - if that's really the proper word - for admitting such a thing, but when your situation did enter my mind, my first thought was not so much "I hope Anne is holding up well with the whole situation", but rather "I hope Icey is holding up well with the whole situation". Part of me wants to say that "I'm glad that it seems things are returning to normal", but that's not really true. I don't know your family personally, but I would imagine that things will never really be normal in that sense - after such things occur, they never stop having had occurred. But there's something in the tone of your update that sounds alot like you used to sound on these forums ... and if that is in fact a glimmer of calm/acceptance/contentment/fortitude - whatever the best word for it truly is - than I am overjoyed that this process has been, at least seemingly and on the whole, survived emotionally. Stay Well. | 2010-01-06 22:37:00 Author: Jagrevi Posts: 1154 |
| During my visit with Anne today, she brought me so much joy I was overwhelmed and if she were to stay just as she is I will love her and give her whatever I can to make her life happy, comfortable and content. Regards Icey Icey, that is such a lovely thing you said. Anne's progress has been just unbelieveable and she continues to improve every time you go to visit. I'm sure a lot of it is down to you and all your efforts. Our thoughts are always with you and your special thanks mean so much to both of us. | 2010-01-06 22:38:00 Author: mrsvista Posts: 755 |
| That's such positive news for the start of the New Year! I'm genuinely pleased, and I hope that Brave Anne continues in her courageous journey. Take care of yourself, too, Icey & Rhy! All good wishes to you both. | 2010-01-06 22:56:00 Author: MrsSpookyBuz Posts: 1492 |
| Thanks for the update - I had been wondering how things were progressing. Great news to hear Anne is making such progress and that you are finding joys and positives during her continued healing process. Keep us posted and as always if you need support or a good virtual hug - we're here for ya! | 2010-01-06 23:21:00 Author: Morgana25 Posts: 5983 |
| Quite awesome to hear, Icey! Considering the speed at which your sister has been improving, it can be assumed she'll make a complete recovery. And if we don't assume, we can hope! Stay strong, everything's alright! | 2010-01-07 00:20:00 Author: Astrosimi Posts: 2046 |
| Wow!! Such great to news to ring in the new year!! Thanks so much for the full report. It sounds like she is really recovering well! That is just so hopeful to hear!! Thanks so much for sharing!! We keep her and your family in our thoughts and prayers! | 2010-01-07 00:32:00 Author: jwwphotos Posts: 11383 |
| Icey, thank you for sharing Anne's progress with us. This is indeed incredibly good news! Anne seems like a real fighter, and I'm sure your continued love and support does wonders in fueling her spirit. I wish her, you and your family continued strength to work through this together until she makes a full recovery. | 2010-01-07 15:08:00 Author: ScoutsBoo Posts: 63 |
| This news is a wonderful way to begin the New year. Our prayers continue to be with you and Anne. May 2010 bring you both more improvements and encouragement each and every day. | 2010-01-07 16:06:00 Author: Lady_Luck__777 Posts: 3458 |
| So glad that the good news keeps coming! | 2010-01-07 18:17:00 Author: supersickie Posts: 1366 |
| Thank you so much everyone for you kind words and support. I think Jagrevi's words were very appropriate. Our lives will never be normal again. We have the difficult job of making plans for Anne's care in the future. It seems there are no easy choices, but whatever the outcome we are all thankfull that we still have Anne to care for. Icey | 2010-01-07 23:53:00 Author: IceMaiden Posts: 1057 |
| Thank you so much everyone for you kind words and support. I think Jagrevi's words were very appropriate. Our lives will never be normal again. We have the difficult job of making plans for Anne's care in the future. It seems there are no easy choices, but whatever the outcome we are all thankfull that we still have Anne to care for. Icey And right there you've summed it all up: it'll never be the same, but you still have Anne which is an invaluable gift. Sometimes things come at a high cost, but - in times like these - it's a cost that we happily pay... | 2010-01-08 13:46:00 Author: supersickie Posts: 1366 |
| Thanks, Icey. That's really encouraging news and truly heartwarming. What a beautiful way to put it. You're all still in my prayers. I'm sure whatever you all decide regarding her care will be the right thing. I hope Gerald is improving as well and handling things as best he can. Thanks for keeping us apprised. Love & best wishes to you all xox | 2010-01-09 03:44:00 Author: BabyDoll1970 Posts: 1567 |
| Good to hear! be strong and take care! give yourself and anne an extra hug from me | 2010-01-09 11:40:00 Author: Luos_83 Posts: 2136 |
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