Archive: 22 posts

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This thread (https://lbpcentral.lbp-hub.com/index.php?t=t=16467) made me think about some of the things I've been taught as a child. I don't know how it is for everyone else, but here in Montreal I feel that manners and courtesy are a dying breed. I think it's important to treat each-other with respect and try not to make the people around us more miserable when we can avoid it. So, I thought I would make a thread where we can list some of the things we've been taught about manners, courtesy and the like. These are generally simple things which require nothing more than a little restraint or a little consideration, but which would make a world of difference if everyone behaved that way. Here's some of the things I've been taught : Not to interrupt someone who is speaking unless it is very urgent. Not to interrupt or eavesdrop on someone else's conversation. To hold the door for someone who is old, handicapped, pregnant or heavily burdened. To offer our seats to someone who is old, handicapped, pregnant or heavily burdened. Not to throw trash on the floor/street/ground. I could list many more but I don't want to bore anyone with details. Feel free to share your own, discuss the manners in your town, share some touching stories, and sing campfire songs.

2009-09-14 17:45:00 Author: Gilgamesh Posts: 2536

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Please and thank-you. Main ones I have a gripe with I don't much like it when people do not say please and thank-you :o

2009-09-14 19:27:00 Author: Boomy Posts: 3701

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I'd like to think of myself to have all that awesome stuff, but there are a LOT of people who don't. I take the train to school (and back, of course) and although it only lasts a couple of minutes there are some people (from my school or otherwise) who really don't seem to know how to act around strangers, a lot of whom are elderly etc.

2009-09-14 19:30:00 Author: ARD Posts: 4291

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I do all of the things, but it really annoys me when I hold the door open for someone and they don't say thank you. Also dinner manners too. No elbows on the table, hold the fork correctly, chew with your mouth closed and don't talk whilst chewing too You know what else I have noticed? The people who don't say thank you are often elderly...I held the door for this old woman and she just scowled...

2009-09-14 19:31:00 Author: KoRnDawwg Posts: 1424

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You know what else I have noticed? The people who don't say thank you are often elderly...I held the door for this old woman and she just scowled... I'm really sorry, KoRn, I'll say thanks next time!

2009-09-14 19:36:00 Author: MrsSpookyBuz Posts: 1492

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People are generally well mannered in my area, but noones perfect including myself I'm a bit shy sometimes so someone might not hear me when i say please/thanks because i say it too quietly without realising, that's the only place i go wrong xD I really hate people who don't show the slightest respect for anyone though. For example on the bus a few days ago a woman came on with a child and insisted to this weird looking guy that he sat somewhere else so she could have the double seat and sit by her child. The weird guy just looked at her in disgust though and told her to sit somewhere else! The weird guy looked elderly although he was more than capable of sitting elsewhere, there seems to be a pattern forming here Another thing that really annoys me is littering. Now i try to tolerate other people littering outside but littering INSIDE is disgusting. The other day i was at college picking up litter after my friends because they were just throwing it on the floor in the corridors, and there are bins all over the place there! It also annoys me when my friends look at me weirdly because i insist that i keep hold of my rubbish until i find a bin :/

2009-09-14 19:46:00 Author: Dexiro Posts: 2100

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I completely forgot about saying "Please" and "Thank you". Though to be fair some people tend to say those without putting any meaning behind it, or worse they say it to be sarcastic. I also hold onto my trash until I get to a non-overflowing trash bin. I can't bring myself to even throw candy wrappers on the floor. But I don't follow dining etiquette though... well, I try not to talk while eating at least.

2009-09-14 20:17:00 Author: Gilgamesh Posts: 2536

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sarcastic I'm the most sarcastic person I know...and everyone says I'm the most sarcastic person they know...woohoo...yeah... I'm still polite and crap though

2009-09-14 20:23:00 Author: ARD Posts: 4291

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Just thought, i don't really follow any dining etiquette I'll try to be polite when sitting around a table and eating but that's very rare (as in i never sit at a table and eat). Usually i'm just sitting on the couch and throwing food at my friends

2009-09-14 20:27:00 Author: Dexiro Posts: 2100

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Well, I for one want to enforce cell phone etiquette... I frequently use public transportation and encounter people who talk loudly...especially people with bluetooth headsets... For some reason I get apprehensive whenever I see someone wearing them...

2009-09-14 20:38:00 Author: jeffcu28 Posts: 648

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Any time I want to read a book on my train ride I have to listen to some wordless music at the same time, only to drown out the people talking on cell phones. And not the ones sitting next to me either... they're like eight seats over, but anyone can still hear them talking clear as day even above the general noise on the train ride. I suppose it's easy to get absorbed into a conversation but... don't cell phones and headsets have volume control and noise filters now? I don't own (and probably never will) a cell phone so I'm not really sure how much better they have gotten, aside from becoming ridiculously tiny. @ARD : Do I detect sarcasm? I used to be pretty sarcastic several years back, but when my parents called me on it I started to ease off on that. It was becoming a bit of a problem.

2009-09-14 23:06:00 Author: Gilgamesh Posts: 2536

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All of these are things i find important, and also a dying breed. What REALLY bothers me is when people forget to use their turn signals... its common courtesy to other drivers, and good safety, you know?

2009-09-14 23:15:00 Author: Burnvictim42 Posts: 3322

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Well, I for one want to enforce cell phone etiquette... I frequently use public transportation and encounter people who talk loudly...especially people with bluetooth headsets... For some reason I get apprehensive whenever I see someone wearing them... Lol it's like the law not to talk with a cellphone on the train in Japan. They also added in a law in which you can't listen to your mp3 while riding a bike...... which kinda sucks. (well i don't use the bike often so meh)

2009-09-14 23:37:00 Author: snowyjoe Posts: 509

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You know what frustrates me the most? People pushing to get in the metro/subway. This is so ridiculous. If you want to enter, I need to get out. Jeez, this is basic logic. And if you push trying to enter, how the hell can you justify that? No matter what happens, you will NOT miss the train. And if it was for a seat, just ask. People are affraid of basic things. If I was handicaped or extremely tired, I would simply ask for a seat. People liking it or not is NOT my problem but theirs. It's so ridiculous that when I get out of the metro I will bump into anyone blocking me. You will receive only a "sorry". Learn to live in society. .

2009-09-15 00:00:00 Author: RangerZero Posts: 3901

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You know what frustrates me the most? People pushing to get in the metro/subway. This is so ridiculous. If you want to enter, I need to get out. Jeez, this is basic logic. And if you push trying to enter, how the hell can you justify that? No matter what happens, you will NOT miss the train. And if it was for a seat, just ask. People are affraid of basic things. If I was handicaped or extremely tired, I would simply ask for a seat. People liking it or not is NOT my problem but theirs. It's so ridiculous that when I get out of the metro I will bump into anyone blocking me. You will receive only a "sorry". Learn to live in society. . You also forget people pushing into an already overfilling train. I find my self pushed against another person or a wall when I'm on the train at rush hours.

2009-09-15 01:57:00 Author: snowyjoe Posts: 509

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I see many things covered but let me add one more: courtesy on the road. NYC drivers make you age twice as fast.

2009-09-15 05:42:00 Author: Foofles Posts: 2278

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Well, road etiquette isn't really something you learn growing up. Also considering the general iffiness of driving schools (or complete lack of it) many people simply don't learn proper road rules. Though others casually disregard the rules they've learned for the sake of going "fast", which is another problem. This reminds me that there was recently an article about how Montreal drivers disregard the rules and are behaving more dangerously around school zones. That also reminds me that one should avoid crossing in the middle of a busy street. It makes it more dangerous for yourself and for the drivers who now have to concentrate on not hitting the random pedestrian that showed up unexpectedly. I learned my lesson when I was nearly hit by a car on my way back from school once.

2009-09-15 13:56:00 Author: Gilgamesh Posts: 2536

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I have decent manners.. after P.E. im ussauly near the end of the people that go in the locker room so i hold the door for about like 15 people.

2009-09-16 00:05:00 Author: Snrm Posts: 6419

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I have decent manners.. after P.E. im ussauly near the end of the people that go in the locker room so i hold the door for about like 15 people. That happens to me xD My friends just barge through a door and then i'm left awkwardly holding the door open while crowds of people run through and my friends are left on the other side waiting for me :/

2009-09-16 00:20:00 Author: Dexiro Posts: 2100

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I see society at a point where it is more of a good quality to have manners and etiquette than something everyone has. While everyone should treat everyone in this basic way, it just escapes most people nowadays. I was raised on "please" and "thank you", and that's how I am today. I sum it up with the Golden Rule, do unto others as you would have them do unto you. I want people to treat me with courtesy and respect, therefore that is how I conduct myself to others. The only other thing that really annoys me is how often people will stare at you. I find that totally disrespectful and rude.

2009-09-16 00:34:00 Author: BSprague Posts: 2325

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I live in Bakersfield CA, which I call Bakerstucky or Bakersburg. I do this because Im originally from MS and when I moved to CA I heard all the skewed opinions of the South.. do you all live in homes with wheels, 5 broken down cars in every yard, etc... When I arrived in Bakersfield, after 2 years in awesome Huntington Beach CA, I found it was everything I had heard Californians believed about the South, except worse because its true here..LOL Anyway.. manners in this area are horrible. I was raised saying please, thank you, yes ma'am, no sir, etc.. Not even close here. Our first week here we were in a nice Italian restaurant (not an Olive Garden). Once seated we were amazed at how loud the other guests were. To add to this, there are two men sitting 3 tables from us. One is on cell phone. The other gets a call on his cell phone while the other is talking. What does he do? He gets up and walks away from his table so as not to disturb his friend and stands at the end of our table to carry on his conversation!!!!! WTFlyingF ?? I asked him to step away, which he did, but gave me a look like I was crazy.

2009-09-16 01:27:00 Author: rz22g Posts: 340

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Anyway.. manners in this area are horrible. I was raised saying please, thank you, yes ma'am, no sir, etc.. Not even close here. Our first week here we were in a nice Italian restaurant (not an Olive Garden). Once seated we were amazed at how loud the other guests were. To add to this, there are two men sitting 3 tables from us. One is on cell phone. The other gets a call on his cell phone while the other is talking. What does he do? He gets up and walks away from his table so as not to disturb his friend and stands at the end of our table to carry on his conversation!!!!! WTFlyingF ?? I asked him to step away, which he did, but gave me a look like I was crazy. I can't stand people like that, who just have no regard for anyone else but themselves. I'll normally just brush it off or politely ask them to leave like you did, but sometimes I'll confront them about it. I'm don't take things like that likely, it just shows that they really don't understand how to treat people.

2009-09-16 03:21:00 Author: BSprague Posts: 2325

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